Beware of Toddler - Page 3

kerosene · 09-29-2004, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by garnet

Actually, it's YOU that needs to go back and read the posts. Perth also mentioned in this thread that his son bites, too. If you would like me to post a link to that, I'd be happy to do so. Please be more careful before you start slingin' the mud, OK, honey?

Perth mentioned that his son *use to* bite. It was mentioned to help address what the thread was originally about. Because you don't have experience with children, you wouldn't know that most children go through that stage (that I have heard of). And what is with the "honey" and "sweetie" stuff? Does your new internet man know you have so many "honey"s?

Labrat, great job with the progress. It's nice to see parents like you around. I hope things continue to go well with that.

LabRat · 09-29-2004, 11:25 AM

I had a mini conference with the lead teacher in her room last night. How they 'punish' biting (and other

) is by making the offender sit down in a certain spot for a period of time. Yesterday, after biting somone who wasn't moving fast enough in the slide line, Katie went straight over and sat in the naughty spot all by herself

So, i consider this progress, she knows it's wrong to bite, but hasn't yet developted the impulse control or language to say "get moving slowpoke!" Were saying excuse me at home, but i don't think it's clicked yet.

Oh, and at home the other night, she didn't want to get her diaper changed. She went to bite me on the arm, but stopped just as her mouth touched me, and gave me a kiss instead. I told her, "thank you, we don't bite mommy". it's been almost a week since she's tried it at home. I'm sure we'll have isolated incidents, but I think we have kept it from getting to be an hourly occurance.

perth · 09-29-2004, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by LabRat

Oh, and at home the other night, she didn't want to get her diaper changed. She went to bite me on the arm, but stopped just as her mouth touched me, and gave me a kiss instead. I told her, "thank you, we don't bite mommy". it's been almost a week since she's tried it at home. I'm sure we'll have isolated incidents, but I think we have kept it from getting to be an hourly occurance.

Definite progress. Jamey has done that a couple times too. It's cute. What's really great is that he's getting so good at expressing his feelings verbally. I mean, it's really hard not to laugh when he scowls at me and says "Daddy, I'm mad at you!" but it's wonderful that he realises it gets results as opposed to time out. Does she talk much yet?

Undertoad · 09-29-2004, 11:28 AM

With puppies, you give a loud squeal and pull away and don't play with them for a little while. They realize they're hurting you and start using a gentler mouth.

kerosene · 09-29-2004, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

With puppies, you give a loud squeal and pull away and don't play with them for a little while. They realize they're hurting you and start using a gentler mouth.

I think they are sort of similar in that way. I have noticed that anytime Jamey hurts me in some way accidentally, I will say ouch! and he immediately feels really bad about it. He has, on occasion, put his head down and cried because he felt so bad. The kid is so sensitive.

jinx · 09-29-2004, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

With puppies, you give a loud squeal and pull away and don't play with them for a little while. They realize they're hurting you and start using a gentler mouth.

Works the same with nursing babies. Neither of mine ever bit anyone as toddlers, I guess I squealed loud enough.

Pie · 10-26-2004, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

With puppies, you give a loud squeal and pull away and don't play with them for a little while. They realize they're hurting you and start using a gentler mouth.

The funny part is that kittens respond best to a hiss. Squealing or saying "ouch!" is somewhat natural when you are bitten, but it takes a moment for me to remember I'm supposed to hiss at the kitten when she starts biting.

Oh, and not that it matters, but the reason I won't have kids: hearing even the slightest scream or screech out of one and I have the overwhelming, instinctual urge to back-hand the little twerp across the room. I restrain myself.

I do ask to be seated away from small children in restaurants, when I have the option.

-Pie

Trilby · 09-30-2004, 10:18 AM

Oh, you guys! (and gals!) Just wait 'till you've got teenagers on your hands! You'll yearn for the days when the only problems were biting and diapering! My 13 year-old son is the hands-down champion of the Disgusted Eye-Roll. Teenagers are God's way of telling you that no matter what you think, you are no longer "cool" and you never will be again.

perth · 09-30-2004, 10:22 AM

I was just planning on trading mine in when he turns 12.

Trilby · 09-30-2004, 11:08 AM

I used to want another baby until I took a good look at my younger sister's 2 1/2 year old. In one day he threw celery at a friend, sneezed all over without covering his mouth (disgusting!) and then watched the same Wallace and Gromit video four times in a row. I can't get the line, "Shall we have a bit of cheese, then, Gromit?" out of my head!

Cyber Wolf · 09-30-2004, 01:37 PM

You can pass any 'discarded' Wallace and Grommit media my way

LabRat · 10-25-2004, 04:29 PM

UPDATE

It's been over 2 weeks now since she has bitten anyone at daycare. (despite receiving a bite that left a mark for a WEEK!!) If she bit that day, she did not get the sucker that everyone gets when their parents pick them up. I think that made the biggest impression

. She has only bitten me a couple of times lately, both right before bedtime, wherupon we immediately stopped what we were doing, got her PJ's on and went to bed. Ultimately I think we kept this to a stage rather than turning into a 'behavior problem'. Thanks for the advice, I hope it's later rather than sooner before I'm asking for more!

perth · 10-25-2004, 05:04 PM

It's wonderful to hear, LabRat. Keep being consistent with the times she bites you and I imagine that will be short-lived as well.

Clodfobble · 10-25-2004, 09:28 PM

Also, make sure you document these times now, so that when she's old enough you can tell her boyfriend all about it and embarass her.

Cyber Wolf · 10-26-2004, 06:39 AM

Good job! At this point, she's only biting with teeth. Just wait till she starts using biting sarcasm.

09-29-2004, 11:25 AM	#2
LabRat twatfaced two legged bumhole Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,143	I had a mini conference with the lead teacher in her room last night. How they 'punish' biting (and other ) is by making the offender sit down in a certain spot for a period of time. Yesterday, after biting somone who wasn't moving fast enough in the slide line, Katie went straight over and sat in the naughty spot all by herself So, i consider this progress, she knows it's wrong to bite, but hasn't yet developted the impulse control or language to say "get moving slowpoke!" Were saying excuse me at home, but i don't think it's clicked yet. Oh, and at home the other night, she didn't want to get her diaper changed. She went to bite me on the arm, but stopped just as her mouth touched me, and gave me a kiss instead. I told her, "thank you, we don't bite mommy". it's been almost a week since she's tried it at home. I'm sure we'll have isolated incidents, but I think we have kept it from getting to be an hourly occurance. __________________ Strength does not come from how much weight you can lift, or how many miles you can run. It comes from knowing that you set a goal, and rose to the challenge. Strength comes from within. Last edited by LabRat; 09-29-2004 at 11:30 AM.

09-30-2004, 10:18 AM	#8
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Oh, you guys! (and gals!) Just wait 'till you've got teenagers on your hands! You'll yearn for the days when the only problems were biting and diapering! My 13 year-old son is the hands-down champion of the Disgusted Eye-Roll. Teenagers are God's way of telling you that no matter what you think, you are no longer "cool" and you never will be again. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

09-30-2004, 11:08 AM	#10
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I used to want another baby until I took a good look at my younger sister's 2 1/2 year old. In one day he threw celery at a friend, sneezed all over without covering his mouth (disgusting!) and then watched the same Wallace and Gromit video four times in a row. I can't get the line, "Shall we have a bit of cheese, then, Gromit?" out of my head! __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

09-30-2004, 01:37 PM	#11
Cyber Wolf As stable as a ring of PU-239 Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: On a huge rock covered in water, highly advanced moss and 7 billion parasites Posts: 1,264	You can pass any 'discarded' Wallace and Grommit media my way __________________ "I don't see what's so triffic about creating people as people and then getting' upset 'cos they act like people." ~Adam Young, Good Omens "I don't see why it matters what is written. Not when it's about people. It can always be crossed out." ~Adam Young, Good Omens

10-25-2004, 04:29 PM	#12
LabRat twatfaced two legged bumhole Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,143	UPDATE It's been over 2 weeks now since she has bitten anyone at daycare. (despite receiving a bite that left a mark for a WEEK!!) If she bit that day, she did not get the sucker that everyone gets when their parents pick them up. I think that made the biggest impression . She has only bitten me a couple of times lately, both right before bedtime, wherupon we immediately stopped what we were doing, got her PJ's on and went to bed. Ultimately I think we kept this to a stage rather than turning into a 'behavior problem'. Thanks for the advice, I hope it's later rather than sooner before I'm asking for more! __________________ Strength does not come from how much weight you can lift, or how many miles you can run. It comes from knowing that you set a goal, and rose to the challenge. Strength comes from within.

09-29-2004, 11:28 AM	#4
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	With puppies, you give a loud squeal and pull away and don't play with them for a little while. They realize they're hurting you and start using a gentler mouth.

09-30-2004, 10:22 AM	#9
perth Strong Silent Type Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Fort Collins, CO Posts: 1,949	I was just planning on trading mine in when he turns 12.

10-25-2004, 05:04 PM	#13
perth Strong Silent Type Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Fort Collins, CO Posts: 1,949	It's wonderful to hear, LabRat. Keep being consistent with the times she bites you and I imagine that will be short-lived as well.

10-25-2004, 09:28 PM	#14
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Also, make sure you document these times now, so that when she's old enough you can tell her boyfriend all about it and embarass her.

10-26-2004, 06:39 AM	#15
Cyber Wolf As stable as a ring of PU-239 Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: On a huge rock covered in water, highly advanced moss and 7 billion parasites Posts: 1,264	Good job! At this point, she's only biting with teeth. Just wait till she starts using biting sarcasm. __________________ "I don't see what's so triffic about creating people as people and then getting' upset 'cos they act like people." ~Adam Young, Good Omens "I don't see why it matters what is written. Not when it's about people. It can always be crossed out." ~Adam Young, Good Omens

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