Divorce: It's not whether you fight, but how you fight - Page 4

Spexxvet · 10-06-2010, 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by classicman

I think you just used up your BONUS TRICK

Now you're back to Shawnee sexual innuendo.

Shawnee123 · 10-06-2010, 09:24 AM

You know I save all my uendos for you, spexx.

classicman · 10-06-2010, 09:48 AM

Just to bring this full circle - Think of the kids and if you know someone going through a divorce remind them - especially when they are stuck in the hatred and emotionally charged SHIT that a divorce normally becomes.

xoxoxoBruce · 10-06-2010, 09:55 AM

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Section 3701(a) of the Pennsylvania Divorce Code provides that “[w]here a divorce decree has been entered, the court may allow alimony, as it deems reasonable, to either party only if it finds that alimony is necessary.”

It's not automatic indefinite support, as in alimony states.

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but there is a provision for support during a court approved training/schooling plan, to reenter the workforce.

PA takes it on a case by case basis. If she's working, no. If she's in school, or needs to be, in order to get a job, yes, but only until she's able to support herself. If she's disabled, or has pre-school kids, probably, until the situation changes.

Note: I used "she" because 99.9% of the time that's the case, but it can be the other way around.

classicman · 10-06-2010, 10:21 AM

Yep - like I said -

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Just clarifying - well trying to anyway.

and the link is there as well.

Shawnee123 · 10-06-2010, 10:24 AM

This is probably crazy talk, but with all the things they try to teach in school: singles living, family living, finances, cooking...etc, how about planning an exit strategy before you get married? I'm not being facetious: no one believes that their true love won't last forever, but if faced with "IF it does end, what WILL YOU DO" it takes some of that unrealistic fantasy crap out of it. No one wants to deal with that negative thinking, but that negative is too often the reality.

We all know about 1 in 2 marriages: none of us think it will be us (unless you're a serial monogamist who's been married 6 times, like one of my friends..which boggles my mind.)

(I think I just came up with my book and subsequent book tour.)

classicman · 10-06-2010, 10:53 AM

Isn't that whats called a prenuptial agreement?

Spexxvet · 10-06-2010, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by classicman

Isn't that whats called a prenuptial agreement?

That's financial. I think Shaw is recommending a class where you discuss "how will you act when you are going through a divorce and have kids?"

Shawnee123 · 10-06-2010, 11:07 AM

An "exit strategy" not "here's what'll happen to the house and money." An all-encompassing dealing with reality which includes what spexx said. Further, people in their "salad days" just getting started out rarely have a trust fund to worry about being pilfered. It's all salad and love and high hopes.

Spexxvet · 10-06-2010, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123

An "exit strategy" not "here's what'll happen to the house and money." An all-encompassing dealing with reality which includes what spexx said. Further, people in their "salad days" just getting started out rarely have a trust fund to worry about being pilfered. It's all salad and love and high hopes.

Lettuce not go there.

classicman · 10-06-2010, 12:26 PM

Well that would certainly keep a lot less people from getting married in the first place.
lol

Spexxvet · 10-06-2010, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by classicman

Well that would certainly keep a lot less people from getting married in the first place.
lol

I'm not sure that would be a bad thing.

classicman · 10-06-2010, 02:03 PM

I'm sure it would be a good thing.

Spexxvet · 10-06-2010, 02:19 PM

I've decided. It would not be a bad thing.

10-06-2010, 09:24 AM	#47
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	You know I save all my uendos for you, spexx. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

10-06-2010, 09:48 AM	#48
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Just to bring this full circle - Think of the kids and if you know someone going through a divorce remind them - especially when they are stuck in the hatred and emotionally charged SHIT that a divorce normally becomes. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-06-2010, 10:24 AM	#51
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	This is probably crazy talk, but with all the things they try to teach in school: singles living, family living, finances, cooking...etc, how about planning an exit strategy before you get married? I'm not being facetious: no one believes that their true love won't last forever, but if faced with "IF it does end, what WILL YOU DO" it takes some of that unrealistic fantasy crap out of it. No one wants to deal with that negative thinking, but that negative is too often the reality. We all know about 1 in 2 marriages: none of us think it will be us (unless you're a serial monogamist who's been married 6 times, like one of my friends..which boggles my mind.) (I think I just came up with my book and subsequent book tour.) __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

10-06-2010, 10:53 AM	#52
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Isn't that whats called a prenuptial agreement? __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-06-2010, 11:07 AM	#54
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	An "exit strategy" not "here's what'll happen to the house and money." An all-encompassing dealing with reality which includes what spexx said. Further, people in their "salad days" just getting started out rarely have a trust fund to worry about being pilfered. It's all salad and love and high hopes. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

10-06-2010, 12:26 PM	#56
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Well that would certainly keep a lot less people from getting married in the first place. lol __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-06-2010, 02:03 PM	#58
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	I'm sure it would be a good thing. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-06-2010, 02:19 PM	#59
Spexxvet Makes some feel uncomfortable Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 10,346	I've decided. It would not be a bad thing. __________________ "I'm certainly free, nay compelled, to spread the gospel of Spex. " - xoxoxoBruce

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