What's scorching your groove today? - Page 60

Undertoad · 06-11-2012, 08:45 PM

Sorry for your loss sir.

And so we learn what is important -- thank you so much for sharing the story with us.

You did great.

zippyt · 06-11-2012, 09:12 PM

Sorry for your loss

classicman · 06-11-2012, 09:45 PM

Damn Jim. no words. sympathies to those still here and a prayer for him.
So sorry.

jimhelm · 06-11-2012, 10:04 PM

Thanks. I wanted to put my impressions in writing so I could read it again in the future. Also wanted to try to convey what was, behind the birth of my children, the most real thing that ever happened....to me? No. uh.... Something.
....um..... The most real thing I've ever witnessed. In that moment, there was only that moment. A drip of sweat from my brow landed right in his open eye. Slow motion. He did not blink.

God.

classicman · 06-11-2012, 10:44 PM

powerful. telling. raw.

Clodfobble · 06-11-2012, 10:53 PM

Holy shit, man. Goddamn. I'm glad you told your story.

Trilby · 06-12-2012, 05:24 AM

Wow. Being there with him at his passing is a very specific gift.

You did so well Jim.

Peace to you all.

limey · 06-12-2012, 05:53 AM

Jim I am so sorry for your loss. It must have been gruelling, harrowing. Thank you for recording it for your future self, and sharing it with us.
Maybe Biff was waiting to see you one last time?

kerosene · 06-12-2012, 08:07 AM

Wow. Jim, thanks for sharing this. Hopefully some of the strangeness/grief of the experience will fade and you will be grateful to have been there in your dear uncle's last moments.

infinite monkey · 06-12-2012, 09:16 AM

Aww jim. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Happy Monkey · 06-26-2012, 06:33 PM

I got caught in this on Friday.

I was flying from LAX to DC through Nashville (Tenacious D was on my flight!). When we landed in Nashville, there was a garbled message from American Airlines on my voicemail, which I deleted. I discovered what it must have been about when I saw that the second and final leg of my flight had been cancelled. The gate agents sent me to the ticket agents, who told me that my new flight was:

a) 5:30 PM
b) Saturday
c) Routed through Chicago with a 2 hour layover
d) Arriving in DC after midnight, Sunday morning.

And in compensation, I had a discount at the local Mariott.

I was unhappy, but I figured that with at least four flights to DC cancelled, enough people were in my situation that it wasn't too surprising that it would be hard to get them all accomodated quickly. So I spent the night in Nashville, and got back to the airport the next morning, where again the ticket agents said that no earlier flights were available. I resigned myself to wandering airport shops for 6 hours.

I did just that for an hour or so, slowly making my way to my gate, and when I got there, I discovered that a direct flight to DC was leaving from that gate within the hour!

Here is where my groove got less scorched. I asked the gate agents if they could fit me on the flight, and they did so! I got home at 4pm instead of midnight, and so did my checked luggage!

So ticket agents scorched my groove, but gate agents slapped on a bit of aloe.

BigV · 06-27-2012, 01:19 AM

moisturizing scorched grooves is *always* a good idea. Slapplication method to be negotiated between the groove owner and the moisturizerer.

Pico and ME · 06-27-2012, 07:23 AM

Wow Jim. What a thing to go through. Sorry for your loss, I hope your family finds peace soon.

(I know this is late, but I just saw your post)

orthodoc · 06-27-2012, 02:34 PM

So sorry to hear of your loss. You were there for him, did everything you could ... a last gift. Thank you for sharing something so important.

Sundae · 06-27-2012, 02:59 PM

Shoot, Jim, only just read that.
Since Grandad died I have wished I could read more accounts of people present when relatives stopped living.

I'm so glad I was there when Grandad died.
Because he would have died anyway and I just feel better that I was at his side.
In fact I told him to "Go home" because of his strong Catholic faith, and Mum and my sister (also Catholic) found this really comforting. He died about 15 minutes after that. I doubt he'd really heard any of us for at least 12 hours, but if it helped Mum & Law...

It helps me to process my own ambivilant feelings when I read about other people present at death when it was both expected and yet the loss was felt. Thanks for sharing.

06-11-2012, 09:12 PM	#2
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Sorry for your loss __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

06-11-2012, 09:45 PM	#3
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Damn Jim. no words. sympathies to those still here and a prayer for him. So sorry. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

06-11-2012, 10:04 PM	#4
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	Thanks. I wanted to put my impressions in writing so I could read it again in the future. Also wanted to try to convey what was, behind the birth of my children, the most real thing that ever happened....to me? No. uh.... Something. ....um..... The most real thing I've ever witnessed. In that moment, there was only that moment. A drip of sweat from my brow landed right in his open eye. Slow motion. He did not blink. God. __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

06-11-2012, 10:44 PM	#5
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	powerful. telling. raw. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

06-11-2012, 10:53 PM	#6
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Holy shit, man. Goddamn. I'm glad you told your story. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

06-11-2012, 08:45 PM	#1
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Sorry for your loss sir. And so we learn what is important -- thank you so much for sharing the story with us. You did great.

06-12-2012, 05:24 AM	#7
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Wow. Being there with him at his passing is a very specific gift. You did so well Jim. Peace to you all. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

06-12-2012, 05:53 AM	#8
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Jim I am so sorry for your loss. It must have been gruelling, harrowing. Thank you for recording it for your future self, and sharing it with us. Maybe Biff was waiting to see you one last time? __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

06-12-2012, 08:07 AM	#9
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	Wow. Jim, thanks for sharing this. Hopefully some of the strangeness/grief of the experience will fade and you will be grateful to have been there in your dear uncle's last moments.

06-12-2012, 09:16 AM	#10
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Aww jim. I'm so sorry for your loss.

06-26-2012, 06:33 PM	#11
Happy Monkey I think this line's mostly filler. Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: DC Posts: 13,575	I got caught in this on Friday. I was flying from LAX to DC through Nashville (Tenacious D was on my flight!). When we landed in Nashville, there was a garbled message from American Airlines on my voicemail, which I deleted. I discovered what it must have been about when I saw that the second and final leg of my flight had been cancelled. The gate agents sent me to the ticket agents, who told me that my new flight was: a) 5:30 PM b) Saturday c) Routed through Chicago with a 2 hour layover d) Arriving in DC after midnight, Sunday morning. And in compensation, I had a discount at the local Mariott. I was unhappy, but I figured that with at least four flights to DC cancelled, enough people were in my situation that it wasn't too surprising that it would be hard to get them all accomodated quickly. So I spent the night in Nashville, and got back to the airport the next morning, where again the ticket agents said that no earlier flights were available. I resigned myself to wandering airport shops for 6 hours. I did just that for an hour or so, slowly making my way to my gate, and when I got there, I discovered that a direct flight to DC was leaving from that gate within the hour! Here is where my groove got less scorched. I asked the gate agents if they could fit me on the flight, and they did so! I got home at 4pm instead of midnight, and so did my checked luggage! So ticket agents scorched my groove, but gate agents slapped on a bit of aloe. __________________ _________________ \|...............\| We live in the nick of times. \| Len 17, Wid 3 \| \|_______________\| [pics]

06-27-2012, 01:19 AM	#12
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	moisturizing scorched grooves is always a good idea. Slapplication method to be negotiated between the groove owner and the moisturizerer. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

06-27-2012, 07:23 AM	#13
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	Wow Jim. What a thing to go through. Sorry for your loss, I hope your family finds peace soon. (I know this is late, but I just saw your post) __________________ Jesse LaGreca in 2012 “Seven Deadly Sins: Wealth without work, Pleasure without conscience, Science without humanity, Knowledge without character, Politics without principle, Commerce without morality, Worship without sacrifice.” – Mahatma Gandhi

06-27-2012, 02:34 PM	#14
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	So sorry to hear of your loss. You were there for him, did everything you could ... a last gift. Thank you for sharing something so important. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

06-27-2012, 02:59 PM	#15
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Shoot, Jim, only just read that. Since Grandad died I have wished I could read more accounts of people present when relatives stopped living. I'm so glad I was there when Grandad died. Because he would have died anyway and I just feel better that I was at his side. In fact I told him to "Go home" because of his strong Catholic faith, and Mum and my sister (also Catholic) found this really comforting. He died about 15 minutes after that. I doubt he'd really heard any of us for at least 12 hours, but if it helped Mum & Law... It helps me to process my own ambivilant feelings when I read about other people present at death when it was both expected and yet the loss was felt. Thanks for sharing. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

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