The 24 hour engagement.

[daff0dil]

so umm yeah.
I just reread the string twice because the this was..confusing. what I gained from doing this is that the situation..is confusing.

I'm not trying to sound obtuse here but rather make a point:

I get the feeling this woman does not know what she wants so she is sending confusing messages. she is clearly still interested on some level or she would not have gone away with you, you would not have been in a situation that allowed you to propose, etc..but this is actually, at the current moment somewhat irrelevant it seems to me. this only establishes you are in a relationship and not a stalker

one thing I've learned in relationships is to listen to what people say AND do and SAY and do..in other words, if they don't match, and you are getting mixed messages, it doesn't necessarily mean they want one thing or another or are covering it up, what it more likely means is that they don't know WHAT they want, and so they can't tell you

this also, by the way, means they can't give you what YOU WANT. the last thing in the world you want is to marry someone who is not sure or confused. being with her will probably make her more confused. and you more confused. if you are getting % points towards "I want to flee and don't even know if I want to go away with you" this is not a good sign for a workable relationship. at least not at the moment. even if some part of them feels the same way you do


and because she is confused she also probably is not yet clearly analyzing her feelings and there are probably levels of blame. levels of betrayal. and it really doesn't matter where this is your fault.

best thing you can do is back off. way off. until she has some idea what she wants and comes after you. or doesn't. which is to say: she may or may not owe you an explanation. that is also irrelevant to the relationship and merely a matter of justice in general. and anayway, you don't seem want an explanation. you want her or closure. she is in no place to give you either.
leave it.

[Pico and ME]

Tiki, you post yourself in a corner constantly. Maybe being a fast typist isnt a good thing for you to be.

Originally Posted by Pico and ME

Tiki, you post yourself in a corner constantly. Maybe being a fast typist isnt a good thing for you to be.

Maybe you should start a new thread about how much I suck, and you and Jim and Bruce can have a party in there.

[BigV]

Originally Posted by Pico and ME

Damn Tiki....let it go already.

Originally Posted by Pico and ME

And its a good thing that highly aggressive neurotics like you can come here to get their sensitive egos in a defensive twist.

Originally Posted by Pico and ME

Tiki, you post yourself in a corner constantly. Maybe being a fast typist isnt a good thing for you to be.

Is her posting bothering you? Or are you standing up for disenchanted? I notice you're not taking issue with any of the *content* in her posts. Maybe you think he's heard enough? Why is this even an issue for you? If disenchanted can read or ignore Tiki's posts, surely you can too.

[Pico and ME]

No. No. No. Just me being bitchy. Yup I could, and you could also ignore me if I dont...too.

Originally Posted by Pico and ME

No. No. No. Just me being bitchy. Yup I could, and you could also ignore me if I dont...too.

Pico. Playing the "Who's a bigger bitch?" game might make me out to look bad, but it puts you in the same boat, so if you don't like me, you might want to reconsider whether you want to wedge yourself into the same category with that which you despise.

[Kaliayev]

Originally Posted by Tiki

Pico. Playing the "Who's a bigger bitch?" game might make me out to look bad, but it puts you in the same boat, so if you don't like me, you might want to reconsider whether you want to wedge yourself into the same category with that which you despise.

Logic? On MY internets? BLASPHEMY! Stone the heretic!

[Pico and ME]

Originally Posted by Tiki

Pico. Playing the "Who's a bigger bitch?" game might make me out to look bad, but it puts you in the same boat, so if you don't like me, you might want to reconsider whether you want to wedge yourself into the same category with that which you despise.

Tiki, I would probably like you in person, you have a lot of interests and seem to be a well-rounded open-minded person. I just havent liked the way you have talked to some people on this forum. It really is troll-like and aggressive. And so I poked you. As others have.

Originally Posted by Pico and ME

Tiki, I would probably like you in person, you have a lot of interests and seem to be a well-rounded open-minded person. I just havent liked the way you have talked to some people on this forum. It really is troll-like and aggressive. And so I poked you. As others have.

Do you feel my posts in this thread were troll-like and aggressive?

Because I was honestly trying to give the guy my perspective, and how I would have reacted and why, based on what he wrote. It seems to me that there are a few people following me around and jabbing at me off-topic in any thread I post in, to get a rise out of me, and all it does is derail the thread. That, actually, is trolling.

[lumberjim]

Originally Posted by Tiki

It seems to me that there are a few people following me around and jabbing at me off-topic in any thread I post in, to get a rise out of me, and all it does is derail the thread. That, actually, is trolling.

I gotta cop to this.

I've totally been doing that. I apologize. I won't do it any more.

[Aliantha]

Originally Posted by Tiki

Do you feel my posts in this thread were troll-like and aggressive?

Because I was honestly trying to give the guy my perspective, and how I would have reacted and why, based on what he wrote. It seems to me that there are a few people following me around and jabbing at me off-topic in any thread I post in, to get a rise out of me, and all it does is derail the thread. That, actually, is trolling.

I think what you do a lot of is reitterate previous points, but you don't need to. Because it's all there for the long term once you've pressed the send button. Say what you need to, and then let someone else have a go. Just because their perspective is different doesn't necessarily mean they think you're wrong, or that you should think they're looking to argue with you.

With regard to this particular thread and the advice that you've given dis, I'd say you've made your point very clearly. That's all Pico was saying. That we all get where you're coming from.

[lumberjim]

YEAH...we could all ignore each other...wouldn't that be lovely.


pass that pillow?

[lumberjim]

you're just itching aren't you? like a muscle cramp in your psyche. like a hemorrhoid on your soul.

{{carnival music}}
step right up folks, Tiki is taking all comers. See if you can last 3 minutes in the ring! The pugilists among you can't pass up this opportunity to test your metal against the "Island God of Grousing!"

There's only one rule, here folks....but only Tiki knows what that rule is, and she can change that rule at any time! Step right up!

If you can last just 3 minutes in the ring with her, you win a bunch of shitty comments from people like ........well. you know who, dontcha? if you can't......well....you win the same exact thing.

{{/carnival music}}

[BigV]

Originally Posted by lumberjim

you're just itching aren't you? like a muscle cramp in your psyche. like a hemorrhoid on your soul.

{{carnival music}}
step right up folks, Tiki is taking all comers. See if you can last 3 minutes in the ring! The pugilists among you can't pass up this opportunity to test your metal against the "Island God of Grousing!"

There's only one rule, here folks....but only Tiki knows what that rule is, and she can change that rule at any time! Step right up!

If you can last just 3 minutes in the ring with her, you win a bunch of shitty comments from people like ........well. you know who, dontcha? if you can't......well....you win the same exact thing.

{{/carnival music}}

Must you say *everything* you think?

We all got it, the same one thought, the first twenty times you said it. Save some oxygen for the rest of us, ok?

[Undertoad]

Originally Posted by lumberjim

{{carnival music}}
{{/carnival music}}

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