My friend with breast cancer - Page 9

monster · 10-13-2009, 08:57 AM

thanks guys, I needed that

monster · 10-14-2009, 11:23 PM

I got a lovely note from her in the mail today (despite seeing her almost every day). Bitch is trying to make me cry, I reckon, because I refuse to be all maudlin in her presense.

She's a little better, but i think there's a horrible reality that it's not just "lop the boob off and it will all be OK" settling in. But I want it all to be OK.

She doesn't deserve this crap. (who does) She's the nicest person I've ever met -she enjoys my bitchiness ...but tells me off for it if I'm being even the tiniest bit posibly unfair

Trilby · 10-17-2009, 01:39 PM

Fuck Cancer !

Sundae · 10-17-2009, 04:38 PM

Mum's friend is back in the hospice. After much negotiation.

Don't know if I said in this thread; originally she was considered too close to death for hospital, but too likely to cling on by the hospice. Which makes the hospice sound like bad news (and in truth, it's there for people to die in) but the environment is so much nicer, that friends & family preferred her to be there.

So she is there. In her own room. On oxygen. And like all hospice patients, she won't recover. And like all hospices (UK I mean) they are a registered charity.

I am proud of the NHS. I am proud people are looked after in this country. But I have supported hospices every time I have been able (meh, you know me - when I've not been able too) because people die there. And hopitals try not to let that happen. And hospices let friends/ family in all day and all night. And respect gay partnerships.

Breda may have some time left yet. I hope she does. I love her through Mum. But I have a black suit ready. Sorry.

limey · 10-17-2009, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

Mum's friend is back in the hospice. After much negotiation.
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Breda may have some time left yet. I hope she does. I love her through Mum. But I have a black suit ready. Sorry.

Oh SG! Hugs to you, and your mum, and Breda at this difficult time.

capnhowdy · 10-18-2009, 08:37 AM

fuck cancer

Sundae · 10-24-2009, 02:31 PM

Breda died last night.
She went quietly and peacefully with only her son and daughter present. As opposed to the 12 people round rgw bed that Mum was annoyed about when she visited last time. Then again, Mum - much as I love her - has very set rules about the etiquette of dying. I'm sure it was a great comfort to her daughter to have people able to say goodbye.

wolf · 10-24-2009, 05:33 PM

Peace to her, and to those she leaves behind.

dar512 · 10-26-2009, 03:11 PM

Peace and prayers to her and her family.

Trilby · 10-26-2009, 05:25 PM

cancer. a sucky-suck of a suck disease. Just fuck cancer!

Sundae · 02-07-2011, 03:14 PM

One of Mum's friends and ex-cow orker was diagnosed with the same type of cancer as Mum just before Christmas (ductal carcinoma in situ - DCIS). It didn't go as well for her as it did for Mum though.

First the lumpectomy, now the double mastectomy.
She's going under the knife this week and Mum wanted something funny to put on the fresh flowers card she is sending her (see below).
Apparently Fuck Cancer wasn't appropriate. We settled on "Try to think of it as a weight off your chest."

Thoughts and wishes to Madge.

monster · 09-11-2012, 09:30 PM

Not sure if this helps ortho, but BUMP.

Walking with this friend tomorrow. She's still going strong.....

orthodoc · 09-12-2012, 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by monster

Not sure if this helps ortho, but BUMP.

Walking with this friend tomorrow. She's still going strong.....

Hey, mon. Yes, it does. After they told me I had a positive sentinel node on quick section at surgery, I spent the next couple of days in a funk. I couldn't stop thinking about distant mets and Stage 4. It's good to hear that your friend is doing well and going strong three years later. That's where I want to be in three years, too.

Trilby · 09-12-2012, 07:31 AM

I'm five years out! (I think...I'm pretty sure. Yeah, it' was Aug. 2007 when I got the news) and I'm FINE with killer hair and everything

You WILL get thru this. You might feel like crap, but this too shall pass.

XOXOXOX

monster · 09-12-2012, 02:53 PM

My friend just threw her husband out (long overdue, was almost ready to do it when cancer struck) and has now decided she's strong enough to go back and finish her training as a counsellor/psychologist type person. Go M!

10-13-2009, 08:57 AM	#121
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	thanks guys, I needed that __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

10-14-2009, 11:23 PM	#122
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	I got a lovely note from her in the mail today (despite seeing her almost every day). Bitch is trying to make me cry, I reckon, because I refuse to be all maudlin in her presense. She's a little better, but i think there's a horrible reality that it's not just "lop the boob off and it will all be OK" settling in. But I want it all to be OK. She doesn't deserve this crap. (who does) She's the nicest person I've ever met -she enjoys my bitchiness ...but tells me off for it if I'm being even the tiniest bit posibly unfair __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

10-17-2009, 01:39 PM	#123
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Fuck Cancer ! __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

10-17-2009, 04:38 PM	#124
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Mum's friend is back in the hospice. After much negotiation. Don't know if I said in this thread; originally she was considered too close to death for hospital, but too likely to cling on by the hospice. Which makes the hospice sound like bad news (and in truth, it's there for people to die in) but the environment is so much nicer, that friends & family preferred her to be there. So she is there. In her own room. On oxygen. And like all hospice patients, she won't recover. And like all hospices (UK I mean) they are a registered charity. I am proud of the NHS. I am proud people are looked after in this country. But I have supported hospices every time I have been able (meh, you know me - when I've not been able too) because people die there. And hopitals try not to let that happen. And hospices let friends/ family in all day and all night. And respect gay partnerships. Breda may have some time left yet. I hope she does. I love her through Mum. But I have a black suit ready. Sorry. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

10-18-2009, 08:37 AM	#126
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	fuck cancer __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please.

10-24-2009, 02:31 PM	#127
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Breda died last night. She went quietly and peacefully with only her son and daughter present. As opposed to the 12 people round rgw bed that Mum was annoyed about when she visited last time. Then again, Mum - much as I love her - has very set rules about the etiquette of dying. I'm sure it was a great comfort to her daughter to have people able to say goodbye. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

10-24-2009, 05:33 PM	#128
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	Peace to her, and to those she leaves behind. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

10-26-2009, 03:11 PM	#129
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	Peace and prayers to her and her family. __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

10-26-2009, 05:25 PM	#130
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	cancer. a sucky-suck of a suck disease. Just fuck cancer!

02-07-2011, 03:14 PM	#131
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	One of Mum's friends and ex-cow orker was diagnosed with the same type of cancer as Mum just before Christmas (ductal carcinoma in situ - DCIS). It didn't go as well for her as it did for Mum though. First the lumpectomy, now the double mastectomy. She's going under the knife this week and Mum wanted something funny to put on the fresh flowers card she is sending her (see below). Apparently Fuck Cancer wasn't appropriate. We settled on "Try to think of it as a weight off your chest." Thoughts and wishes to Madge. Attached Images

09-11-2012, 09:30 PM	#132
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Not sure if this helps ortho, but BUMP. Walking with this friend tomorrow. She's still going strong..... __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

09-12-2012, 07:31 AM	#134
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I'm five years out! (I think...I'm pretty sure. Yeah, it' was Aug. 2007 when I got the news) and I'm FINE with killer hair and everything You WILL get thru this. You might feel like crap, but this too shall pass. XOXOXOX __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

09-12-2012, 02:53 PM	#135
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	My friend just threw her husband out (long overdue, was almost ready to do it when cancer struck) and has now decided she's strong enough to go back and finish her training as a counsellor/psychologist type person. Go M! __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

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