Dwellar Secrets

[BrianR]

I do not mind the questions in the least. If anyone gets rude or offensive or too personal, I will let them know. You in particular are not offending me at all.

I know that a lot of people know little or nothing about transsexuals. I know that you have lots of questions. I don't mind answering them, if only to bring a little more enlightenment into the world.

Feel free to ask away!

Oh, and more recent pictures will have to wait. So far, I have only approved my glam shots from yesteryear for public display. Rest assured, I am taking pictures weekly to document my transition. Someday, I will post them all in order so that friends can see the changes better.

[Clodfobble]

Originally Posted by BrianR

I have never had a female friend sit down and help me however. That might be fun! Clodfobble? I know you're listening.

I hope you're not suggesting I know anything about applying makeup! However, that said, I do have a small suggestion that comes from my stage days more than anything: regardless of what foundation you do use, you'll want to blend it all the way down your neck and chest. And I agree with monster, the purple eyeshadow is subtle and very nice!

[BrianR]

actually, on the eyes, I checked.

I used three different colors. Krisp on the inside, Digit in the middle and Intoxicate on the outside. All of these are by Mac. My lipstick is Plumful and my eyeliner is Macroviolet Fluidline. Yes, I keep records! There are also different shades of foundation, concealer, highlighter and blush. Mostly plum in color.

[Griff]

I'm glad you're comfortable sharing with us. Are there any health implications for you in your change?

[BrianR]

Originally Posted by Griff

I'm glad you're comfortable sharing with us. Are there any health implications for you in your change?

Yes there are. But I have preexisting issues. My doctor is working on the big ones first, then the smaller ones. So we're getting me on the right meds to control my wildly out of control thyroid first and foremost.

Then, the vitamin deficiencies will be addressed.

My hormones fit in the middle somewhere.

The basic transition without the complications can be dangerous if you are allergic to any of the drugs, if you don't follow the directions exactly or don't get your blood checked frequently.

But mostly there is little real risk if I do what I'm told.

I can elaborate if you wish but that should answer the question. I hope.

[morethanpretty]

Originally Posted by BrianR

Yes there are. But I have preexisting issues. My doctor is working on the big ones first, then the smaller ones. So we're getting me on the right meds to control my wildly out of control thyroid first and foremost.

Then, the vitamin deficiencies will be addressed.

My hormones fit in the middle somewhere.

The basic transition without the complications can be dangerous if you are allergic to any of the drugs, if you don't follow the directions exactly or don't get your blood checked frequently.

But mostly there is little real risk if I do what I'm told.

I can elaborate if you wish but that should answer the question. I hope.

Fuck out of control thyroids...blech. We should start a club!

[morethanpretty]

All this make up talk is making me feel unfeminine and dumpy
I only wear it 2-3xs a year and always feel like a clown (and yes I do know what looks good and how to do it ect but it still takes me an hour or so b/c my hands are so shaky I often have to restart with the eyes).

Hmf!

Pam, I'm sure you have checked, but what about online clothing stores target towards the transgendered? Also, "plus size" specialty stores (what a stupid term IMHO - most plus sized clothing is not that far from average. Instead of having plus sized clothing in special store/section they ought to do that with the tiny clothes) might have more things that would fit your frame.
All women have issues finding affordable/flattering clothing.

[BrianR]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

Pam, I'm sure you have checked, but what about online clothing stores target towards the transgendered? Also, "plus size" specialty stores (what a stupid term IMHO - most plus sized clothing is not that far from average. Instead of having plus sized clothing in special store/section they ought to do that with the tiny clothes) might have more things that would fit your frame.
All women have issues finding affordable/flattering clothing.

Yes mtp, I have. And I do buy some things online but I prefer to try them on. I just hate the gamble of guessing my size, waiting for it to arrive, trying it on then returning it for exchange. It takes forever just to buy a blouse! I do NOT understand female sizing at all!

The plus sizes still don't really fit until I get to 2X or 3X but then while my shoulders and chest fit, the rest is way too loose. I sometimes take something I otherwise love to a seamstress and have her resize it to fit me but that is spendy!

I have threatened to parade around in maternity wear to see what happens but haven't quite had the nerve yet!

[morethanpretty]

Originally Posted by BrianR

Yes mtp, I have. And I do buy some things online but I prefer to try them on. I just hate the gamble of guessing my size, waiting for it to arrive, trying it on then returning it for exchange. It takes forever just to buy a blouse! I do NOT understand female sizing at all!

The plus sizes still don't really fit until I get to 2X or 3X but then while my shoulders and chest fit, the rest is way too loose. I sometimes take something I otherwise love to a seamstress and have her resize it to fit me but that is spendy!

I have threatened to parade around in maternity wear to see what happens but haven't quite had the nerve yet!

Yeah that is one of the major issues with online buying. NO ONE understands female sizing because it does not make sense.

Hmm, learn to sew? You did say you needed another direction to go. Maybe you could get into fashion design, and you would have a unique perspective.

I have seriously considered maternity wear also...my tummy likes to grow and shrink without the rest of me.

[casimendocina]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

I have seriously considered maternity wear also....

I'd say go for it, particularly if you locate a good shop assistant who will be able to pick out suitable pieces for you.

A good friend of mine's mother-in-law had a high-end maternity label for many years a while ago. A lot of the clothing was beautiful and I bought quite a few pieces which worked irrespective of whether a person was pregnant or not. I still have a skirt and a coat which gets compliments often, so obviously no-one notices and I have never been asked ever if I'm pregnant.

I'll see if I can find a pic or two. You won't be able to tell.

[casimendocina]

Maternity Wear.

The file is way too big, but it does show the detail of the skirt which I really like. Unfortunately, this particular brand is no more. The waist line dips to accommodate stomach or lack thereof. With a shirt that covers the waistline, no-one would ever be able to tell the difference.

[DanaC]

I think I have applied make-up about 4 times in the last 18 months :p

[morethanpretty]

Originally Posted by DanaC

I think I have applied make-up about 4 times in the last 18 months :p

Technically some1 else put mine on me at least 2 of the most recent times. Sister's wedding - pro, Halloween - a friend.

[elSicomoro]

My secret: I don't have big toenails...they've both been removed due to ingrown issues. Been gone since HS.

Pretty fucking boring, I know.

[Griff]

Two fewer to paint.