Spouses who don't get The Cellar?

lookout123 · 02-24-2005, 11:08 PM

OK - i'm piss drunk at this point, so what the hell?

I love my wife, she loves me. (just don't ask her right now.) i've been in the cellar for a little less than a year, and my wife has asked about it. she's even read through some of the threads. she thinks i'm an idiot for spending so much time conversing with people that i will, more than likely, never meet face-to-face.

is there anyone in your life who is aware of the cellar? who doesn't get it? who thinks you are an idiot because you DO get it? is there a good way to describe why we come here?

wolf · 02-25-2005, 12:13 AM

My mom and my sister don't get it. Neither do my coworkers (I've clued the cooler ones into The Cellar, but they just don't bite).

I have at least one very good friend who tells me he's a regular lurker, but he's extremely hesitant to register for anything online, even something as cool as this, which is a shame, because I know that he'd have a joyous time participating here. (Yes, I do mean YOU.)

Some people just don't understand the fun and interest of participating in anything online, including playing games or just surfing.

I think it's like baseball. You either really like it, or you don't like it at all. Oh, or become vaguely interested during the world series.

Undertoad · 02-25-2005, 08:13 AM

I think about 1 in 10 people will "get it" and another 1 in 10 will understand it and/or lurk.

My ex didn't understand it, but lamented when we got divorced that I had a set of people that I could turn to and tell the stories and get a little support while she had none.

We've had spouses who were both online and still got divorced so that's no solution.

Beestie · 02-25-2005, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

My ex ... lamented ... that I had a set of people that I could turn to ... get a little support while she had none.

Well cry me a freakin' river.

breakingnews · 02-25-2005, 08:29 AM

I touched on this in a message to another forum. The thread, "Classified Information," was about aspects of our lives which we lie about.

The crux of my post was the fact that many people do not know how much of a web nerd I am. I still have friends, some of whom I've met IRL, from the inordinate amount of time I spent on IRC and on random BBS boards. I learned HTML and had a Web site up and running before most of my peers even knew what the Internet was and its purpose (porn, porn, porn). I briefly was into multiplayer games and clans and all that nonsense. About 95% of funny stuff I circulate comes from the several forums where I lurk, yet I usually tell people that "a friend e-mailed it to me." I have a hard time admitting that I've dated through Craigslist and Friendster.

You folks here understand and think it's no big deal, but with my friends, this kind of stuff just doesn't jibe. It's weird and hard to explain, considering how much time my friends and I spend online chatting with each other and looking at ridiculous Web sites. But embracing this kind of dialogue in this sort of community is way off the radar of most people. My point is that these forums are the new coffee shops, the new place to learn about what's going on in the world and discovering things both on- and offline.

This phenomenon is extremely odd among my college friends. At Emory we used FirstClass Client, which is more or less a BBS with a GUI. I met many of my friends through random conferences created by people I knew (via numerous, "Oh, you're going to that party? We should meet," messages).

Clodfobble · 02-25-2005, 08:41 AM

My husband thinks it's cute that I consider you guys friends. He's actually considered joining on many occasions, but just hasn't gotten around to it. I think he's afraid he'd spend more time here than I do.

Beestie · 02-25-2005, 08:49 AM

My wife spends wayyyyyyyyyyy more time on eBay than I spend on the Cellar. Way more. By far. A LOT more.

Oh! Hi Honey!

glatt · 02-25-2005, 09:19 AM

I get addicted to boards. For a few years it was a kayak building board. There was a year of Fark in there. That was a wasted year. I can't believe the level of discussion at Fark and that I participated in it. I also spend a lot of time lurking at the Fine Homebuilding site. I post occasionaly there and even had two of my posts chosen to print in the paper edition of Fine Homebuilding Magazine. There's a lot to learn there, but the discussions about non-building topics are really pretty bad.

The Cellar is a nice fit though. There's a decent amount of diversity here. It's casual, but there is a level of maturity and respect not present on other general topic boards.

My wife knows of my habit of visiting boards. Mostly I do it from work, but occasionally I'll spend some time from home. She doesn't like me spending too much time on the computer. So, no. She doesn't get it.

BigV · 02-25-2005, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by glatt

I get addicted to boards. For a few years it was a kayak building board. --snip--

hmm. Nick Schade? Strip-built? Guillemot Expedition Single?

I'd love to swap stories with you.

lookout123 · 02-25-2005, 02:04 PM

ah, jim, jinx, glatt, and bigV kayaking... next thing there will be a cellar gtg for kayakers.

glatt · 02-25-2005, 03:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BigV

hmm. Nick Schade? Strip-built? Guillemot Expedition Single?

I'd love to swap stories with you.

Yeah, that's the board where I used to hang out a lot. But I built a plywood stitch and glue Mill Creek 13 by CLC. There's a picture of me launching it somewhere here on the Cellar. It was a thread by LJ about "Mom and Pop" stores. (does a quick search) Here it is: http://www.cellar.org/showpost.php?p=118208&postcount=8

I bought Nick's book to help support his kayak building site, and have thought about building a nice stripper, but the time commitment is one I'm not ready to make right now. I've got too many other projects going on. In fact I don't use the kayak nearly as much as I thought I would. A few hours a year, and that's it.

It's fun, but I don't have much free time.

xoxoxoBruce · 02-26-2005, 02:31 AM

I only come here to find out when your going on vacation so I can rob your house........and rifle the underwear drawer.

Neither friends nor family "get it." Commonly heard after expressing an unpopular opinion; "You spend to much time on the internet."

FloridaDragon · 02-27-2005, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Beestie

My wife spends wayyyyyyyyyyy more time on eBay than I spend on the Cellar. Way more. By far. A LOT more.

Wow...I wonder if your wife and my wife are related!! That describes this house exactly. And family don't really get it either...the only comments i hear are that there needs to be more interesting photos (ok UT? they want Images of the HOUR now)

Trilby · 02-25-2005, 09:28 AM

I don't have a spouse-more's the pity-but other people in my life think it's weird that I spend the time that I do here. Coming here is easy--no arrangements to be made or babysitters, etc. It's an instant community at my fingertips. Someone is usually here and willing to talk, etc. And I learn a lot of interesting things here. Mostly about myself.

SteveDallas · 02-25-2005, 11:00 AM

Mrs. Dallas gets it more than she used to back in the early 90s, thanks to the fact that she now has email, IM, etc. and is plugged in to the onlin Gilbert & Sullivan community.

02-24-2005, 11:08 PM	#1
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	Spouses who don't get The Cellar? OK - i'm piss drunk at this point, so what the hell? I love my wife, she loves me. (just don't ask her right now.) i've been in the cellar for a little less than a year, and my wife has asked about it. she's even read through some of the threads. she thinks i'm an idiot for spending so much time conversing with people that i will, more than likely, never meet face-to-face. is there anyone in your life who is aware of the cellar? who doesn't get it? who thinks you are an idiot because you DO get it? is there a good way to describe why we come here? __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

02-25-2005, 12:13 AM	#2
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	My mom and my sister don't get it. Neither do my coworkers (I've clued the cooler ones into The Cellar, but they just don't bite). I have at least one very good friend who tells me he's a regular lurker, but he's extremely hesitant to register for anything online, even something as cool as this, which is a shame, because I know that he'd have a joyous time participating here. (Yes, I do mean YOU.) Some people just don't understand the fun and interest of participating in anything online, including playing games or just surfing. I think it's like baseball. You either really like it, or you don't like it at all. Oh, or become vaguely interested during the world series. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

02-25-2005, 08:49 AM	#7
Beestie -◊\|≡·∙■·∙≡\|◊- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Parts unknown. Posts: 4,081	My wife spends wayyyyyyyyyyy more time on eBay than I spend on the Cellar. Way more. By far. A LOT more. Oh! Hi Honey! __________________ ♠ ♥ ♣ ♦

02-25-2005, 02:04 PM	#10
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	ah, jim, jinx, glatt, and bigV kayaking... next thing there will be a cellar gtg for kayakers. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

02-26-2005, 02:31 AM	#12
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	I only come here to find out when your going on vacation so I can rob your house........and rifle the underwear drawer. Neither friends nor family "get it." Commonly heard after expressing an unpopular opinion; "You spend to much time on the internet." __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

02-25-2005, 08:13 AM	#3
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I think about 1 in 10 people will "get it" and another 1 in 10 will understand it and/or lurk. My ex didn't understand it, but lamented when we got divorced that I had a set of people that I could turn to and tell the stories and get a little support while she had none. We've had spouses who were both online and still got divorced so that's no solution.

02-25-2005, 08:29 AM	#5
breakingnews Q_Q Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: somewhere in between Posts: 995	I touched on this in a message to another forum. The thread, "Classified Information," was about aspects of our lives which we lie about. The crux of my post was the fact that many people do not know how much of a web nerd I am. I still have friends, some of whom I've met IRL, from the inordinate amount of time I spent on IRC and on random BBS boards. I learned HTML and had a Web site up and running before most of my peers even knew what the Internet was and its purpose (porn, porn, porn). I briefly was into multiplayer games and clans and all that nonsense. About 95% of funny stuff I circulate comes from the several forums where I lurk, yet I usually tell people that "a friend e-mailed it to me." I have a hard time admitting that I've dated through Craigslist and Friendster. You folks here understand and think it's no big deal, but with my friends, this kind of stuff just doesn't jibe. It's weird and hard to explain, considering how much time my friends and I spend online chatting with each other and looking at ridiculous Web sites. But embracing this kind of dialogue in this sort of community is way off the radar of most people. My point is that these forums are the new coffee shops, the new place to learn about what's going on in the world and discovering things both on- and offline. This phenomenon is extremely odd among my college friends. At Emory we used FirstClass Client, which is more or less a BBS with a GUI. I met many of my friends through random conferences created by people I knew (via numerous, "Oh, you're going to that party? We should meet," messages).

02-25-2005, 08:41 AM	#6
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	My husband thinks it's cute that I consider you guys friends. He's actually considered joining on many occasions, but just hasn't gotten around to it. I think he's afraid he'd spend more time here than I do.

02-25-2005, 09:19 AM	#8
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I get addicted to boards. For a few years it was a kayak building board. There was a year of Fark in there. That was a wasted year. I can't believe the level of discussion at Fark and that I participated in it. I also spend a lot of time lurking at the Fine Homebuilding site. I post occasionaly there and even had two of my posts chosen to print in the paper edition of Fine Homebuilding Magazine. There's a lot to learn there, but the discussions about non-building topics are really pretty bad. The Cellar is a nice fit though. There's a decent amount of diversity here. It's casual, but there is a level of maturity and respect not present on other general topic boards. My wife knows of my habit of visiting boards. Mostly I do it from work, but occasionally I'll spend some time from home. She doesn't like me spending too much time on the computer. So, no. She doesn't get it.

02-25-2005, 09:28 AM	#14
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I don't have a spouse-more's the pity-but other people in my life think it's weird that I spend the time that I do here. Coming here is easy--no arrangements to be made or babysitters, etc. It's an instant community at my fingertips. Someone is usually here and willing to talk, etc. And I learn a lot of interesting things here. Mostly about myself. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

02-25-2005, 11:00 AM	#15
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	Mrs. Dallas gets it more than she used to back in the early 90s, thanks to the fact that she now has email, IM, etc. and is plugged in to the onlin Gilbert & Sullivan community.

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