It gets better?

monster · 09-22-2010, 10:38 PM

I posted in Current Events about a series of videos being made to help gay kids realize that they are not alone and that once they get out of the confinment of school where they have no choice of classmates, it gets better.

And I was reminded that 10% of people are gay.

Hmm.

We have one openly gay and a few questioning/bi posters here. Out of thousands. Fair enough, probably not a very gay friendly forum....

But what about our kids? more than 10 of us have children, but no-one posts about their worries/concerns/happiness that their child is/appears to be gay.

Taboo much?

I have three kids. Both boys have done girly things, the girl did all boy stuff until about a year ago. I don't give a shit if any one of them is gay, but I'd hate it if they felt they needed to hide it from me. Would i talk about it on the Cellar? No, I have to admit, probably not, because there's still so much prejudice and nastiness and their peers are way better at interwebs searching than I am at being anonymous.

That sucks.

classicman · 09-22-2010, 10:41 PM

I think this is a pretty damn gay-friendly forum. I also have 3 kids, and couldn't give a crap if they were gay. As long as they are happy, then I am happy for them.

Pico and ME · 09-22-2010, 10:44 PM

So you were reminded that only 10% are gay. So what. Sharing that video is actually helping non-gay people to understand this situation better. I appreciated it. Tolerance is a very rare commodity it seems and anything that helps to promote it is a very good thing.

One thing that video did was make me wonder if my stepsons ever do any bullying. It reminds me that I need to be vigilant in that regard too.

monster · 09-22-2010, 10:57 PM

That's cool, Pico, but why has no-one ever posted about their gay child and their concerns about that? It seems from the videos I saw that many parents need time to come to terms with a gay child. People post here all the time about things they need to "come to terms with" -many -IMO- have issues way, way worse that maybe not having grandchildren....but no-one posts about gay kids. It just seems odd when you look at the stats (forgive me, I'm a math nerd)

Pico and ME · 09-22-2010, 11:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by monster

That's cool, Pico, but why has no-one ever posted about their gay child and their concerns about that? It seems from the videos I saw that many parents need time to come to terms with a gay child. People post here all the time about things they need to "come to terms with" -many -IMO- have issues way, way worse that maybe not having grandchildren....but no-one posts about gay kids. It just seems odd when you look at the stats (forgive me, I'm a math nerd)

Ahhh, I see what you are saying.

HungLikeJesus · 09-22-2010, 11:00 PM

I think Gustav the stick bug might have been gay.

He seemed so happy.

Cloud · 09-22-2010, 11:00 PM

I've never posted about my gay child . . . 'cause I don't have any. No gay family members even. Out of the 8 grandkids . . . no signs of wee feyness yet. As you might surmise, it wouldn't upset me either.

classicman · 09-22-2010, 11:08 PM

Sorry monster - all I have are gay friends & family members. Thy are all fine and talk little about any bullying or BS because of their sexual preference. We do however discuss sports, cars, bosses who are assholes and that kinda stuff.
<shrug>

xoxoxoBruce · 09-22-2010, 11:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by monster

Would i talk about it on the Cellar? No, I have to admit, probably not, because there's still so much prejudice and nastiness and their peers are way better at interwebs searching than I am at being anonymous.

That sucks.

You, or any member, could post here as "anonymous".

Cloud · 09-22-2010, 11:09 PM

how exactly does that work, btw?

xoxoxoBruce · 09-22-2010, 11:12 PM

Log out, and log in as anonymous. I'll PM you the password, as we don't want non-members spamming us.

monster · 09-22-2010, 11:11 PM

Oh fuck you all, I quit being a bleeding heart liberal

Cloud · 09-22-2010, 11:11 PM

thank you; no one gave me the secret decoder ring

classicman · 09-22-2010, 11:13 PM

thanks bruce - better idea

Clodfobble · 09-22-2010, 11:16 PM

Monster, I've actually mentioned my suspicions about my stepson before. But I've always felt that it's not my place to be as open online about them as I am about my own kids (hence no pictures, etc.) Not really anything to come to grips with anyway, from my perspective.

09-22-2010, 10:38 PM	#1
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	It gets better? I posted in Current Events about a series of videos being made to help gay kids realize that they are not alone and that once they get out of the confinment of school where they have no choice of classmates, it gets better. And I was reminded that 10% of people are gay. Hmm. We have one openly gay and a few questioning/bi posters here. Out of thousands. Fair enough, probably not a very gay friendly forum.... But what about our kids? more than 10 of us have children, but no-one posts about their worries/concerns/happiness that their child is/appears to be gay. Taboo much? I have three kids. Both boys have done girly things, the girl did all boy stuff until about a year ago. I don't give a shit if any one of them is gay, but I'd hate it if they felt they needed to hide it from me. Would i talk about it on the Cellar? No, I have to admit, probably not, because there's still so much prejudice and nastiness and their peers are way better at interwebs searching than I am at being anonymous. That sucks. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

09-22-2010, 10:41 PM	#2
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	I think this is a pretty damn gay-friendly forum. I also have 3 kids, and couldn't give a crap if they were gay. As long as they are happy, then I am happy for them. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

09-22-2010, 10:57 PM	#4
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	That's cool, Pico, but why has no-one ever posted about their gay child and their concerns about that? It seems from the videos I saw that many parents need time to come to terms with a gay child. People post here all the time about things they need to "come to terms with" -many -IMO- have issues way, way worse that maybe not having grandchildren....but no-one posts about gay kids. It just seems odd when you look at the stats (forgive me, I'm a math nerd) __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

09-22-2010, 11:00 PM	#6
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	I think Gustav the stick bug might have been gay. He seemed so happy. __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

09-22-2010, 11:00 PM	#7
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	I've never posted about my gay child . . . 'cause I don't have any. No gay family members even. Out of the 8 grandkids . . . no signs of wee feyness yet. As you might surmise, it wouldn't upset me either. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!" Last edited by Cloud; 09-22-2010 at 11:10 PM.

09-22-2010, 10:44 PM	#3
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	So you were reminded that only 10% are gay. So what. Sharing that video is actually helping non-gay people to understand this situation better. I appreciated it. Tolerance is a very rare commodity it seems and anything that helps to promote it is a very good thing. One thing that video did was make me wonder if my stepsons ever do any bullying. It reminds me that I need to be vigilant in that regard too.

09-22-2010, 11:08 PM	#8
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Sorry monster - all I have are gay friends & family members. Thy are all fine and talk little about any bullying or BS because of their sexual preference. We do however discuss sports, cars, bosses who are assholes and that kinda stuff. <shrug> __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

09-22-2010, 11:09 PM	#10
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	how exactly does that work, btw? __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

09-22-2010, 11:12 PM	#11
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Log out, and log in as anonymous. I'll PM you the password, as we don't want non-members spamming us. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

09-22-2010, 11:11 PM	#12
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Oh fuck you all, I quit being a bleeding heart liberal __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

09-22-2010, 11:13 PM	#14
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	thanks bruce - better idea __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

09-22-2010, 11:16 PM	#15
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Monster, I've actually mentioned my suspicions about my stepson before. But I've always felt that it's not my place to be as open online about them as I am about my own kids (hence no pictures, etc.) Not really anything to come to grips with anyway, from my perspective. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

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