Just reaching out because life is very rough right now - Page 3

DanaC · 08-19-2020, 05:10 PM

Wise words, Flint.

limey · 08-19-2020, 05:42 PM

I'm still here for you, as we all are. Flint says good things. Be gentle with yourself and just do what you can without berating yourself for not doing more.
This will pass.

Sent by Magick.

Clodfobble · 08-19-2020, 10:22 PM

From one so-called capable person to another, you're not alone. I also know those words don't really help us capable people, because the only thing that matters is our internal opinion of how we're doing... but it's all I've got right now. Sometimes the stuff just has to wait.

DanaC · 08-20-2020, 11:08 AM

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From one so-called capable person to another, you're not alone. I also know those words don't really help us capable people, because the only thing that matters is our internal opinion of how we're doing... but it's all I've got right now. Sometimes the stuff just has to wait.

Seconded.

One thing I try to remind myself when i am in the midst of it, once I find myself ruminating in circles is that 'this is the wrong time to try to fix/sort out any major issues or lifestyle changes'. Itry to give myself permission to do the minimum and that be okay - it's like: okay, I am big and daft enough to deal with this stuff so why is it so hard? Because it just is right now. Right now in this moment, successfully getting dressed and having a wash is an achievement. This is what i am capable of right now and that is not a reflection of my overall capabilities.

I wouldn't beat myself up as a failure if I had a torn ligament and wasn't up to my usual level of walking. For some reason, just the way my brain works, every so often (very much on a cycle) I become temporarily less competent and able on basic shit and thats fine.

I try to remind myself of that every so often - I dont always listen to myself but sometimes it seems to help.

jaminhealth · 10-07-2020, 11:35 PM

OP: I do not know you and read a bit but I spent 10 miserable yrs in a clnical depression and it was a sluggish thyroid that was undetected by docs for 10 yrs...finally a SMART old time D.O. I saw knew right away and fixed me...that was in 2002... I have not been depressed in 18 yrs now. Live in chronic pain from OA but manage it and laugh when I can. j

08-19-2020, 05:42 PM	#2
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	I'm still here for you, as we all are. Flint says good things. Be gentle with yourself and just do what you can without berating yourself for not doing more. This will pass. Sent by Magick. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

08-19-2020, 10:22 PM	#3
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	From one so-called capable person to another, you're not alone. I also know those words don't really help us capable people, because the only thing that matters is our internal opinion of how we're doing... but it's all I've got right now. Sometimes the stuff just has to wait. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

10-07-2020, 11:35 PM	#5
jaminhealth Banned Join Date: Oct 2020 Location: Santa Monica CA Posts: 226	OP: I do not know you and read a bit but I spent 10 miserable yrs in a clnical depression and it was a sluggish thyroid that was undetected by docs for 10 yrs...finally a SMART old time D.O. I saw knew right away and fixed me...that was in 2002... I have not been depressed in 18 yrs now. Live in chronic pain from OA but manage it and laugh when I can. j

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