How to bullet proof your relationship

Griff · 03-19-2005, 08:29 AM

If you really want to find out if you can spend the rest of your life with someone, design and build a house with them. I just got off the phone with an anal retentive friend who is building a house with his fiance. It turns out they both have AR tendancies and it appears they are complimentary. Pete and I on the otherhand prefer things less finished, more rough. I love to build stuff and as long as its functionally sound I could care less that its a quarter bubble off. Pete does her share, gets her input, and doesn't get bent about the little things. When you read books by people who build together you always wait for the other shoe to drop, one or the other of them made all the choices and the house becomes the individuals, not the couples. Then you get the footnote about who moved out to find themselves...

So if you think you want to spend forever with somebody do the big project and see if it blows you apart or galvanizes you.

Clodfobble · 03-19-2005, 11:07 AM

It's a shame there's not a bullet-proofing process that costs less than a couple hundred thousand dollars...

lookout123 · 03-19-2005, 11:45 AM

i spent a summer building houses in TJ, mexico... those houses only ran about $600 each.

Griff · 03-19-2005, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by lookout123

i spent a summer building houses in TJ, mexico... those houses only ran about $600 each.

Does that include the booze?

Somebody here must've done something that does the same thing with no money down. Seems like hiking the Appalachian Trail or some other intense experience could do the same thing.

footfootfoot · 03-19-2005, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Clodfobble

It's a shame there's not a bullet-proofing process that costs less than a couple hundred thousand dollars...

hee hee hee.

I've heard and believe that the acid test for a relationship is to travel together. Doesn't have to be overseas, though that may count as aqua regia, just get in the car and spend a week or two driving.

If after travelling you are still speaking to one another, then there is a pretty good chance you will make it as a couple.

Griff, I'm told the AT or PCT will work too. And if it all falls apart you'll be mighty buff while you look for a new SO. (unless you keep eating as though you are still hiking. I've seen a bunch of friends turn into michelin men overnight when they didn't get the fact that they were no longer burning 7000 kcal/day and kept eating like there was no tommorow)

zippyt · 03-19-2005, 08:46 PM

Go canoeing with your girlfriend or prospective mate for a 2-3 day trip , if you can work togather as a team and have fun , you have a FINE chance of makeing it in a long term relationship .

footfootfoot · 03-19-2005, 08:47 PM

My evil twin wants to add:

"keep your pimp hand strong"

Whatever that means

footfootfoot · 03-19-2005, 08:48 PM

What zippyt said.

zippyt · 03-19-2005, 09:27 PM

here's proof of my conoe test , a series of pics from my and Carols ( Mrs Zippyt ) first canoe trip , it was a 3 day trip with interconected friends ( some of her friends knew some of my friends ) , we will be married for 16 years the 24th

dar512 · 03-19-2005, 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by footfootfoot

hee hee hee.

I've heard and believe that the acid test for a relationship is to travel together. Doesn't have to be overseas, though that may count as aqua regia, just get in the car and spend a week or two driving.

If after travelling you are still speaking to one another, then there is a pretty good chance you will make it as a couple.

My wife and I actually did this before we got engaged. Took a road trip from St. Louis to Myrtle Beach S.C. It's a good test. 19 years later we're still telling each other "I'm not tired of you yet."

footfootfoot · 03-20-2005, 01:54 PM

zippyt, I like the frame around your photocollage. Neat!

lumberjim · 03-20-2005, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Griff

Does that include the booze?

Somebody here must've done something that does the same thing with no money down. Seems like hiking the Appalachian Trail or some other intense experience could do the same thing.

go on tour with the greatful dead.

xoxoxoBruce · 03-20-2005, 06:33 PM

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a series of pics from my and Carols ( Mrs Zippyt ) first canoe trip

What's a fox like Carol doing as a Mrs Zippy?

I've seen a whole bunch of divorces that started as remodeling projects.

Griff · 03-20-2005, 06:49 PM

They should have remodeled first!

03-19-2005, 08:29 AM	#1
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	How to bullet proof your relationship If you really want to find out if you can spend the rest of your life with someone, design and build a house with them. I just got off the phone with an anal retentive friend who is building a house with his fiance. It turns out they both have AR tendancies and it appears they are complimentary. Pete and I on the otherhand prefer things less finished, more rough. I love to build stuff and as long as its functionally sound I could care less that its a quarter bubble off. Pete does her share, gets her input, and doesn't get bent about the little things. When you read books by people who build together you always wait for the other shoe to drop, one or the other of them made all the choices and the house becomes the individuals, not the couples. Then you get the footnote about who moved out to find themselves... So if you think you want to spend forever with somebody do the big project and see if it blows you apart or galvanizes you. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

03-19-2005, 11:45 AM	#3
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	i spent a summer building houses in TJ, mexico... those houses only ran about $600 each. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

03-19-2005, 08:46 PM	#6
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Go canoeing with your girlfriend or prospective mate for a 2-3 day trip , if you can work togather as a team and have fun , you have a FINE chance of makeing it in a long term relationship . __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

03-19-2005, 08:47 PM	#7
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	My evil twin wants to add: "keep your pimp hand strong" Whatever that means __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

03-19-2005, 08:48 PM	#8
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	What zippyt said. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

03-19-2005, 11:07 AM	#2
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	It's a shame there's not a bullet-proofing process that costs less than a couple hundred thousand dollars...

03-19-2005, 09:27 PM	#9
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	here's proof of my conoe test , a series of pics from my and Carols ( Mrs Zippyt ) first canoe trip , it was a 3 day trip with interconected friends ( some of her friends knew some of my friends ) , we will be married for 16 years the 24th Attached Images __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

03-20-2005, 01:54 PM	#11
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	zippyt, I like the frame around your photocollage. Neat! __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

03-20-2005, 06:49 PM	#14
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	They should have remodeled first! __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

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