Friends of the Opposite Sex

skysidhe · 12-23-2006, 10:03 AM

My friends are guys usually. I like guys but I find myself in a strange triangle. No big deal. No crisis just a new learning experience for them both. Truth be known I am neglecting my non sexual friend more which makes me feel guilty too. I've not been in this situation before where there were undercurrents of feelings comming from both sides.

How do some of you manage your relationships and please share them.
thanks....

lumberjim · 12-23-2006, 10:12 AM

Guy friend = guy that is waiting to fuck you.

12-23-2006, 10:21 AM

I don't agree.

Undertoad · 12-23-2006, 10:24 AM

I guess since I was raised solely by a woman, I can enjoy having women as friends without having to get into their panties.

12-23-2006, 10:24 AM

Exactly. We are not all dogs.

lumberjim · 12-23-2006, 10:35 AM

yes we are.

now, obviously there are no absolutes, so there are exceptions, but if we're talking about an attractive female, her single male friends ARE waiting to fuck her. they're waiting for the boyfriend to slip and piss her off so that they can console her. Howard Stern says so.

12-23-2006, 10:38 AM

Ok... do your gobble baby...
I had many, beautiful, female friends that I did not want to fuck.
Howard would fuck a rabid hedgehog if given the right moment.

skysidhe · 12-23-2006, 10:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lumberjim

Guy friend = guy that is waiting to fuck you.

He has regreted his non actions of his last visit he said.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Undertoad

I guess since I was raised solely by a woman, I can enjoy having women as friends without having to get into their panties.

This is comforting.

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Originally Posted by rkzenrage

We are not all dogs.

It's only the old feeble men that come on to me at work in the most grossiest way. I think they ARE dogs.

ok ...here it goes......the 'friend' I have had for 5 years. He lives in Canada. He has visited twice. My boyfriend is my age. We are compatible. We've been going together since this summer. He wants me sexually and I want him. They both make me laugh and are outgoing. The canada friend dosn't want me sexually but seems to not appreciate me having a boyfriend either although he has lots of friends of both sexes himself. My boyfriend is a guys guy who probably wouldn't have a 'girl friend' outside of sex. Oh it's a little confusing when I think about it so I can't really wrap my head around the undercurrents to write about it clearly. sorry about that.

Well I guess neither likes to hear about the other. It seems to hurt them both. I have had boyfriends before and there wasn't this undercurrent of jealousy I am getting from the both of them.

....which is the bottom line I suppose.....

[edit- now I'll stop talking about me...I want to hear more of YOUR relationship storys]

Aliantha · 12-23-2006, 06:11 PM

I prefer (or used to prefer) to think of male friends as 'friends with benefits'. These days all our friends are married etc, so it's not the same, but back in the day, I guess sometimes there was sexual tension and sometimes there wasn't. If I didn't like or enjoy what I was feeling, I'd just change the dynamics. Jealousy didn't really fit into it though. I don't recall ever having to deal with that side of things.

SteveDallas · 12-23-2006, 07:50 PM

This part jumped out at me.

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Originally Posted by skysidhe

The canada friend dosn't want me sexually but seems to not appreciate me having a boyfriend either

Am I interpreting this correctly? "I'm not going to have sex with you, and I don't want anybody else to either."

yesman065 · 12-23-2006, 09:06 PM

I'm with you Steve - thats how I read it. Maybe the two guys just don't like each other.

My personal story, A female friend of mine has tried to get me into bed several times to no avail. Its not that I'm not attracted to her either - she is nice and attractive, but I am in a committed relationship and have no interest in breaking my word to my SO. I have been on the other side of that scene too many times with my ex-wife and I would never want to inflict that pain on anyone - ever. It still hurts and its been years.

piercehawkeye45 · 12-23-2006, 09:25 PM

Maybe he thinks her boyfriend takes too much of her time and not enough for him?

Beestie · 12-23-2006, 09:52 PM

I've only had one girl "friend." I just wasn't into her.

The rest were what LJ said.

skysidhe · 12-24-2006, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by SteveDallas

This part jumped out at me.

This part continues to jump out at me. Thus the confusion.

freshnesschronic · 12-24-2006, 12:42 PM

Stay committed. Or end the relationship to get with the other guy. Please don't cheat, it's wrong on all levels.

12-23-2006, 10:03 AM	#1
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	Friends of the Opposite Sex My friends are guys usually. I like guys but I find myself in a strange triangle. No big deal. No crisis just a new learning experience for them both. Truth be known I am neglecting my non sexual friend more which makes me feel guilty too. I've not been in this situation before where there were undercurrents of feelings comming from both sides. How do some of you manage your relationships and please share them. thanks....

12-23-2006, 10:12 AM	#2
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	Guy friend = guy that is waiting to fuck you. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

12-23-2006, 10:35 AM	#6
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	yes we are. now, obviously there are no absolutes, so there are exceptions, but if we're talking about an attractive female, her single male friends ARE waiting to fuck her. they're waiting for the boyfriend to slip and piss her off so that they can console her. Howard Stern says so. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

12-23-2006, 06:11 PM	#9
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I prefer (or used to prefer) to think of male friends as 'friends with benefits'. These days all our friends are married etc, so it's not the same, but back in the day, I guess sometimes there was sexual tension and sometimes there wasn't. If I didn't like or enjoy what I was feeling, I'd just change the dynamics. Jealousy didn't really fit into it though. I don't recall ever having to deal with that side of things. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

12-23-2006, 09:52 PM	#13
Beestie -◊\|≡·∙■·∙≡\|◊- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Parts unknown. Posts: 4,081	I've only had one girl "friend." I just wasn't into her. The rest were what LJ said. __________________ ♠ ♥ ♣ ♦

12-23-2006, 10:21 AM	#3
rkzenrage Guest Posts: n/a	I don't agree.

12-23-2006, 10:24 AM	#4
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I guess since I was raised solely by a woman, I can enjoy having women as friends without having to get into their panties.

12-23-2006, 10:38 AM	#7
rkzenrage Guest Posts: n/a	Ok... do your gobble baby... I had many, beautiful, female friends that I did not want to fuck. Howard would fuck a rabid hedgehog if given the right moment.

12-23-2006, 09:06 PM	#11
yesman065 Banned - Self Imposed Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,847	I'm with you Steve - thats how I read it. Maybe the two guys just don't like each other. My personal story, A female friend of mine has tried to get me into bed several times to no avail. Its not that I'm not attracted to her either - she is nice and attractive, but I am in a committed relationship and have no interest in breaking my word to my SO. I have been on the other side of that scene too many times with my ex-wife and I would never want to inflict that pain on anyone - ever. It still hurts and its been years.

12-23-2006, 09:25 PM	#12
piercehawkeye45 Franklin Pierce Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Minnesota Posts: 3,695	Maybe he thinks her boyfriend takes too much of her time and not enough for him?

12-24-2006, 12:42 PM	#15
freshnesschronic Professor Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,555	Stay committed. Or end the relationship to get with the other guy. Please don't cheat, it's wrong on all levels.

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