Deal Breakers

Aliantha · 11-17-2008, 05:08 PM

We've all had relationships that've failed before...for lots of different reasons, but some of these are because of 'deal breakers'. You know what I mean. The thing that no matter how hard you try, you know you'll just never be able to accept it.

What's your deal breaker/s?

Clodfobble · 11-17-2008, 05:19 PM

Mocking intelligence. I don't demand that people be smart, but I demand that they consider it a good thing. This goes for significant others, friends, acquaintances... roll your eyes at the fact that someone knew something you didn't, or used a "big word," and you've got a permanent spot on the shit list.

Clodfobble · 11-17-2008, 05:20 PM

Oh... and being gay.

Cicero · 11-17-2008, 05:55 PM

When he says "we are getting a divorce" and "move out or I will" as that seemed to work. That's a deal breaker.

limey · 11-17-2008, 06:01 PM

When I'd known my now husband for just under a week I said ...
"I'd love to go on seeing you but there are two things that are not negotiable: 1) I do NOT want children and 2) I am NOT moving from where I live.
He agreed straight away

We got married four and a half years later.

Shawnee123 · 11-18-2008, 09:16 AM

Deal breaker:

He spits out his car window, or on the sidewalk. Spitters need not apply.

I broke up with a guy once because he asked where I wanted to "set" in the restaurant. Well, he was also a namby pamby insecure "i've never loved anyone like I do you, please love me back" guy.

Pico and ME · 11-18-2008, 09:55 AM

Mean-spirited character assassination attacks when arguing.

Juniper · 11-18-2008, 10:02 AM

Do I have to choose just one? I have a LONG list.

Lying, infidelity, lack of respect for others, bad manners, bad personal hygiene, tendency toward violence...uh, those are just a few, I could probably list about 50 more.

We all deserve to be fairly picky, I think.

Juniper · 11-18-2008, 10:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shawnee123

I broke up with a guy once because he asked where I wanted to "set" in the restaurant. Well, he was also a namby pamby insecure "i've never loved anyone like I do you, please love me back" guy.

My daughter has one of those right now. (Yeah, the 12 year old.) She broke up with him but he still sends her messages saying he loves her. (sigh) Oh wait, she has two of them, but fortunately one is long-distance. She met him at camp over the summer. He told her "you make my heart feel happy." ::groan::

This is what the future looks like.

smoothmoniker · 11-18-2008, 10:40 AM

apathy.

morethanpretty · 11-18-2008, 11:22 AM

When they say
"men are really physically/ dominant personalities
women are more emotional sexually and submissive
you are the same as any other woman
you just havent met the right man to bring it out in you
WOMEN HATE TO BE IN CHARGE
if you have to make decisions your get totally moody
you are genetically coded to want your partner to call the shots and be in charge

BLAH BLAH BLAH

certainly women would be better at talking an diplomacy than men in politics because they can relate to different parties
there is no way women can conduct war"

Yeah thats just PART of the convo. What an idiot.

Shawnee123 · 11-18-2008, 11:28 AM

Oh Juniper: good point on bad manners. If a guy I'm with treats our server like crap, or with indifference, or talks down to people, like he's better...he's likely to get a steak knife in the eye. Figuratively, of course.

Cicero · 11-18-2008, 11:40 AM

I will make no deals, therefore nothing will break....If you don't buy a ticket, you don't lose.

Trilby · 11-18-2008, 12:21 PM

Embrace your Inner Crone and heed no quarter! Or dollar, either! I've many deal breakers but really only one absolute must-have: Kindness.

@Shawnee----I once had a guy ask me, one the FIRST DATE, if I was "fixed," ya know, like in spayed. God, was he an idiot. WTF? Anyway, I told him, "No...as a matter of fact, I'm looking to have lots of children! Seven! Did you know the seventh son of a seventh son is magic..!?" and so on but he still kept looking at my tits.

Shawnee123 · 11-18-2008, 12:37 PM

What a maroon.

This is why I don't date! Only morons are out there. All the good ones are either gay or married Dwellars.

Or giant liars...did I mention I hate liars?

11-17-2008, 05:08 PM	#1
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Deal Breakers We've all had relationships that've failed before...for lots of different reasons, but some of these are because of 'deal breakers'. You know what I mean. The thing that no matter how hard you try, you know you'll just never be able to accept it. What's your deal breaker/s? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-17-2008, 05:19 PM	#2
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Mocking intelligence. I don't demand that people be smart, but I demand that they consider it a good thing. This goes for significant others, friends, acquaintances... roll your eyes at the fact that someone knew something you didn't, or used a "big word," and you've got a permanent spot on the shit list. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

11-17-2008, 05:20 PM	#3
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Oh... and being gay. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

11-17-2008, 05:55 PM	#4
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	When he says "we are getting a divorce" and "move out or I will" as that seemed to work. That's a deal breaker. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

11-17-2008, 06:01 PM	#5
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	When I'd known my now husband for just under a week I said ... "I'd love to go on seeing you but there are two things that are not negotiable: 1) I do NOT want children and 2) I am NOT moving from where I live. He agreed straight away We got married four and a half years later. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

11-18-2008, 09:16 AM	#6
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Deal breaker: He spits out his car window, or on the sidewalk. Spitters need not apply. I broke up with a guy once because he asked where I wanted to "set" in the restaurant. Well, he was also a namby pamby insecure "i've never loved anyone like I do you, please love me back" guy. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

11-18-2008, 09:55 AM	#7
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	Mean-spirited character assassination attacks when arguing.

11-18-2008, 10:02 AM	#8
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	Do I have to choose just one? I have a LONG list. Lying, infidelity, lack of respect for others, bad manners, bad personal hygiene, tendency toward violence...uh, those are just a few, I could probably list about 50 more. We all deserve to be fairly picky, I think.

11-18-2008, 10:40 AM	#10
smoothmoniker to live and die in LA Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 2,090	apathy. __________________ to live and die in LA

11-18-2008, 11:22 AM	#11
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	When they say "men are really physically/ dominant personalities women are more emotional sexually and submissive you are the same as any other woman you just havent met the right man to bring it out in you WOMEN HATE TO BE IN CHARGE if you have to make decisions your get totally moody you are genetically coded to want your partner to call the shots and be in charge BLAH BLAH BLAH certainly women would be better at talking an diplomacy than men in politics because they can relate to different parties there is no way women can conduct war" Yeah thats just PART of the convo. What an idiot. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

11-18-2008, 11:28 AM	#12
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Oh Juniper: good point on bad manners. If a guy I'm with treats our server like crap, or with indifference, or talks down to people, like he's better...he's likely to get a steak knife in the eye. Figuratively, of course. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

11-18-2008, 11:40 AM	#13
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	I will make no deals, therefore nothing will break....If you don't buy a ticket, you don't lose. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

11-18-2008, 12:21 PM	#14
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Embrace your Inner Crone and heed no quarter! Or dollar, either! I've many deal breakers but really only one absolute must-have: Kindness. @Shawnee----I once had a guy ask me, one the FIRST DATE, if I was "fixed," ya know, like in spayed. God, was he an idiot. WTF? Anyway, I told him, "No...as a matter of fact, I'm looking to have lots of children! Seven! Did you know the seventh son of a seventh son is magic..!?" and so on but he still kept looking at my tits. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

11-18-2008, 12:37 PM	#15
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	What a maroon. This is why I don't date! Only morons are out there. All the good ones are either gay or married Dwellars. Or giant liars...did I mention I hate liars? __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

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