Need some training advice :)

misty82 · 01-18-2009, 10:50 AM

My boyfriend and I are both switches and lately he's been talking a lot about wanting me to train him to enjoy eating cum. He's the first boyfriend I've ever had who not only lets me train him but really wants it. Does anybody have any advice as to a step by step plan that I can use to get him to enjoy eating his own sperm (and eventually possibly eating other men's cum).

The biggest challenge is that we're a long distance relationship at the moment as he lives in Belgium and I'm stuck here in the states until I can get the proper paperwork to join him. We get ten to twenty days together every couple months but most of our daily life and sex life is on webcam with one another while watching videos or reading stories.

As for limits, neither of us are into pain / humiliation and we're careful not to let the D&S spill over too much into our daily lives. To both of us it's just playtime, not a lifestyle.

So yeah, if anybody has any ideas as to how I can get him to enjoy eating cum, I would really appreciate it. My future goals for him include cleaning up his own cum after he jerks off, sucking his cum out of me after we have sex, and possibly eating the cum of other men in the future (after they fuck me or straight from the source

as he's got some fantasies of giving other men head as well).

Undertoad · 01-18-2009, 10:59 AM

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neither of us are into ... humiliation

You aren't. He definitely is.

misty82 · 01-18-2009, 11:04 AM

Not really. By humiliation I mean being put into degrading situations, spoken to disrespectfully (even in play), etc.

Perhaps it's mildly humiliating for a man to eat cum but with his bisexual tendancies it's really just a natural step.

misty82 · 01-18-2009, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

You aren't. He definitely is.

Not really. He's got bisexual fantasies and tendencies, enjoying the taste and texture of cum is simply a natural step towards getting him to be able to act out those fantasies. I love cum, male or female and don't see swallowing it as humiliating in the least. He says it's the taste and texture that he has a hard time liking, not the actual thought of it. I don't plan to degrade him in any way, just to find a way to encourage him to enjoy the flavours.

Wolf, I took this thread to those other boards as well. I'm sorry if this is the wrong place for it.

wolf · 01-18-2009, 11:06 AM

I think this may not be the board you're looking for. These are.

misty82 · 01-18-2009, 11:25 AM

Not really, Undertoad. He's got bisexual fantasies and tendencies, enjoying the taste and texture of cum is simply a natural step towards getting him to be able to act out those fantasies. I love cum, male or female and don't see swallowing it as humiliating in the least. He says it's the taste and texture that he has a hard time liking, not the actual thought of it. I don't plan to degrade him in any way, just to find a way to encourage him to enjoy the flavours.

Wolf, I'm sorry if this is the wrong forum for this thread. I've taken it to the board that you recommended as well.

lumberjim · 01-18-2009, 11:26 AM

blergh.

holy first fucking post, filth flajrn filth. what did you read that made you think this place would be in any way likely to house members that could offer advice of that sort?

and thanks for scarring my minds eye, btw.

gah!

anyway,.,.

try putting it in the freezer with a popsicle stick in it?

Griff · 01-18-2009, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by lumberjim

what did you read that made you think this place would be in any way likely to house members that could offer advice of that sort?

Logical outcome of not driving merc off the board. IMHO

Aliantha · 01-18-2009, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Griff

Logical outcome of not driving merc off the board. IMHO

That's a bit rough. Merc is far from the regular member who talks about that sort of stuff the most.

TheMercenary · 01-18-2009, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

That's a bit rough. Merc is far from the regular member who talks about that sort of stuff the most.

That's pretty funny since I can't see any of his bullshit posts anyhow. Yea, I can't think of but one time I ever mentioned cum. I could see how someone in the closet might think that.

Undertoad · 01-18-2009, 11:32 AM

No it's not the eating cum part that makes him into humiliation. It's the you training him part. I mean, if I wanted to learn to eat cum I would just, you know, go and fuckin' do it. I wouldn't need training.

It's not like he doesn't have a supply ready at hand.

SteveDallas · 01-18-2009, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

No it's not the eating cum part that makes him into humiliation. It's the you training him part. I mean, if I wanted to learn to eat cum I would just, you know, go and fuckin' do it. I wouldn't need training.

It's not like he doesn't have a supply ready at hand.

COOKIE!!!

Trilby · 01-18-2009, 12:08 PM

I am laughing so hard I can hardly...hahhahahahahahaha....

misty82 · 01-18-2009, 12:21 PM

Nah, it's not humiliation. Humiliation involves disrespect, embarassing punishments, etc. What this is all about is simply that he has some fantasies that he'd like to realize someday but has found it difficult to push through his boundaries on his own. I know I've got some fantasies that I'm embarassed to talk about, much less to act on. Both of us being switches simply means that when we're playing the part of the dom we can push the other one through their boundaries into enjoying something that we want to but for some reason or another can't get around our own hangups enough to enjoy it without help from the other.

Lumberjim...I'm sorry, I saw all the threads about BDSM, Poly, etc. and simply assumed (in my naievity) that I might find someone here with experience in Dom / Sub dynamics and that I'd be able to talk about it in a respectful environment. I'm sorry that this came across as such an inappropriate post. Thanks for your time and respect, everyone.

Trilby · 01-18-2009, 12:32 PM

misty! I wasn't laughing at you! I was laughing at the responses...the men are so very against it, but they seem to like it when WE do it. There are people here with some Dom/Sub stuff going on but I think some of them are taking a Cellar break due to some completely other stuff.

Don't be hasty. just maybe open with a joke next time.

01-18-2009, 10:50 AM	#1
misty82 Resident-in-Training Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7	Need some training advice :) My boyfriend and I are both switches and lately he's been talking a lot about wanting me to train him to enjoy eating cum. He's the first boyfriend I've ever had who not only lets me train him but really wants it. Does anybody have any advice as to a step by step plan that I can use to get him to enjoy eating his own sperm (and eventually possibly eating other men's cum). The biggest challenge is that we're a long distance relationship at the moment as he lives in Belgium and I'm stuck here in the states until I can get the proper paperwork to join him. We get ten to twenty days together every couple months but most of our daily life and sex life is on webcam with one another while watching videos or reading stories. As for limits, neither of us are into pain / humiliation and we're careful not to let the D&S spill over too much into our daily lives. To both of us it's just playtime, not a lifestyle. So yeah, if anybody has any ideas as to how I can get him to enjoy eating cum, I would really appreciate it. My future goals for him include cleaning up his own cum after he jerks off, sucking his cum out of me after we have sex, and possibly eating the cum of other men in the future (after they fuck me or straight from the source as he's got some fantasies of giving other men head as well).

01-18-2009, 11:06 AM	#5
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	I think this may not be the board you're looking for. These are. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

01-18-2009, 11:26 AM	#7
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	blergh. holy first fucking post, filth flajrn filth. what did you read that made you think this place would be in any way likely to house members that could offer advice of that sort? and thanks for scarring my minds eye, btw. gah! anyway,.,. try putting it in the freezer with a popsicle stick in it? __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

01-18-2009, 12:08 PM	#13
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I am laughing so hard I can hardly...hahhahahahahahaha.... __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

01-18-2009, 12:32 PM	#15
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	misty! I wasn't laughing at you! I was laughing at the responses...the men are so very against it, but they seem to like it when WE do it. There are people here with some Dom/Sub stuff going on but I think some of them are taking a Cellar break due to some completely other stuff. Don't be hasty. just maybe open with a joke next time. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

01-18-2009, 11:04 AM	#3
misty82 Resident-in-Training Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7	Not really. By humiliation I mean being put into degrading situations, spoken to disrespectfully (even in play), etc. Perhaps it's mildly humiliating for a man to eat cum but with his bisexual tendancies it's really just a natural step.

01-18-2009, 11:25 AM	#6
misty82 Resident-in-Training Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7	Not really, Undertoad. He's got bisexual fantasies and tendencies, enjoying the taste and texture of cum is simply a natural step towards getting him to be able to act out those fantasies. I love cum, male or female and don't see swallowing it as humiliating in the least. He says it's the taste and texture that he has a hard time liking, not the actual thought of it. I don't plan to degrade him in any way, just to find a way to encourage him to enjoy the flavours. Wolf, I'm sorry if this is the wrong forum for this thread. I've taken it to the board that you recommended as well.

01-18-2009, 11:32 AM	#11
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	No it's not the eating cum part that makes him into humiliation. It's the you training him part. I mean, if I wanted to learn to eat cum I would just, you know, go and fuckin' do it. I wouldn't need training. It's not like he doesn't have a supply ready at hand.

01-18-2009, 12:21 PM	#14
misty82 Resident-in-Training Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7	Nah, it's not humiliation. Humiliation involves disrespect, embarassing punishments, etc. What this is all about is simply that he has some fantasies that he'd like to realize someday but has found it difficult to push through his boundaries on his own. I know I've got some fantasies that I'm embarassed to talk about, much less to act on. Both of us being switches simply means that when we're playing the part of the dom we can push the other one through their boundaries into enjoying something that we want to but for some reason or another can't get around our own hangups enough to enjoy it without help from the other. Lumberjim...I'm sorry, I saw all the threads about BDSM, Poly, etc. and simply assumed (in my naievity) that I might find someone here with experience in Dom / Sub dynamics and that I'd be able to talk about it in a respectful environment. I'm sorry that this came across as such an inappropriate post. Thanks for your time and respect, everyone.

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