To my dear friends--

BigV · 10-25-2010, 03:20 PM

There will come a time when your loved one will be gone. Your opportunity to tell them you love them will be gone with them. Tell them today, now. You'll make their day brighter. You will have immunized yourself against the regret of having missed your chance to tell them what's in your heart while you had the chance. Plus, it just feels good.

I once learned that a candle loses nothing by lighting another candle. Sharing your love for your family and friends with them is the same. It costs nothing; it simply adds more love to the world where love is often in short supply.

Best of all, come tomorrow, you can do it again.

limey · 10-25-2010, 04:55 PM

This is good.

xoxoxoBruce · 10-25-2010, 05:52 PM

Do it quickly, before they start their Christmas shopping.

Shawnee123 · 10-26-2010, 07:18 AM

Since my propensity to tell those I care about that I care is equal to my propensity to tell people I don't care for to eff the eff off, I'll bump this thread in the interest of those who forget to do either.

"No one else can speak the words on your lips..."

DanaC · 10-26-2010, 07:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shawnee123

"No one else can speak the words on your lips..."

Unless you're a ventriloquist's dummy.

Shawnee123 · 10-26-2010, 08:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanaC

Unless you're a ventriloquist's dummy.

I would fail miserably in that role.

skysidhe · 10-26-2010, 02:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Do it quickly, before they start their Christmas shopping.

I think this just happened to me.

Gravdigr · 10-26-2010, 04:32 PM

What if I tell her how I really feel, and it ruins everything?

Shawnee123 · 10-26-2010, 06:33 PM

Then you know.

spudcon · 10-26-2010, 08:22 PM

I actually had a party where everyone had to write an obituary and a eulogy about someone else in the group. A great chance to really tell people what they won't be able to hear after they're worm food. As for lighting a candle with a candle, I've noticed that the candle receiving the flame must be above the one giving it. That way, no one gets dripped on, and you, as the giver, feel much better about giving.

HungLikeJesus · 10-26-2010, 08:38 PM

That must have been cheery.

monster · 10-26-2010, 09:00 PM

I just threw up a little in my mouth.

Telling people only works for a certain type of person. Let's face it, anyone can say "I love you". Showing them you love them works for everyone. Except those who don't deserve your love.

You know what, though? Don't tell people you love that you hate them in the heat of an argument and then part for the day. That's bad mmmmkay?

DanaC · 10-27-2010, 06:27 AM

The words 'I love you' were not the kind of thing my dad and I were comfortable using. We rarely (never?) told each other what we felt. I can't say as I feel that I lost out on that score. I really didn't need him to tell me. I'm pretty damn sure he didn't need me to tell him. I think the only time I said those words to him as an adult, was when he was dying, and he was already too far away to understand what was being said to him, i suspect.

They felt a little weird. A little weighted. Those words. Just not the way my family talk to each other. 'rest now' felt comfortable. 'Bye Dad' felt comfortable. 'love you' felt cumbersome and like stating the obvious. If my dad had, at some point, phoned me up and told me he loved me; or turne dup at my house for a visit and told me he loved me...I'd have been touched, sure, but I'd have also been a little weirded out. It would have been so completely out of character for my Dad.

My loved ones know I love them. I know they love me. It doesn't need saying. Very, very occasionally, like maybe twice in the last two decades, I've told Mum I love her. But I defy you to find a closer mother and daughter, who are more sure of each other's affection.

I'm with Monnie on this. You show people you love them. Behaviorally, in how you lead your life and interact with those you love. Saying the words works for some, but is odd to others.

casimendocina · 10-27-2010, 07:21 AM

Total agreement with Dana and Monster. Same for physical manifestations of affection.

Shawnee123 · 10-27-2010, 07:41 AM

One can say the words and do the actions. They are not mutually exclusive ways of being, for some of us.

10-25-2010, 03:20 PM	#1
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	To my dear friends-- There will come a time when your loved one will be gone. Your opportunity to tell them you love them will be gone with them. *Tell them today, now.* You'll make their day brighter. You will have immunized yourself against the regret of having missed your chance to tell them what's in your heart while you had the chance. Plus, it just feels good. I once learned that a candle loses nothing by lighting another candle. Sharing your love for your family and friends with them is the same. It costs nothing; it simply adds more love to the world where love is often in short supply. Best of all, come tomorrow, you can do it again. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

10-25-2010, 04:55 PM	#2
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	This is good. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

10-25-2010, 05:52 PM	#3
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Do it quickly, before they start their Christmas shopping. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

10-26-2010, 07:18 AM	#4
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Since my propensity to tell those I care about that I care is equal to my propensity to tell people I don't care for to eff the eff off, I'll bump this thread in the interest of those who forget to do either. "No one else can speak the words on your lips..." __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

10-26-2010, 04:32 PM	#8
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	What if I tell her how I really feel, and it ruins everything? __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

10-26-2010, 06:33 PM	#9
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Then you know. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

10-26-2010, 08:22 PM	#10
spudcon Beware of potatoes Join Date: May 2007 Location: Upstate NY, USA Posts: 2,078	I actually had a party where everyone had to write an obituary and a eulogy about someone else in the group. A great chance to really tell people what they won't be able to hear after they're worm food. As for lighting a candle with a candle, I've noticed that the candle receiving the flame must be above the one giving it. That way, no one gets dripped on, and you, as the giver, feel much better about giving. __________________ "I believe that being despised by the despicable is as good as being admired by the admirable."

10-26-2010, 08:38 PM	#11
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	That must have been cheery. __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

10-26-2010, 09:00 PM	#12
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	I just threw up a little in my mouth. Telling people only works for a certain type of person. Let's face it, anyone can say "I love you". Showing them you love them works for everyone. Except those who don't deserve your love. You know what, though? Don't tell people you love that you hate them in the heat of an argument and then part for the day. That's bad mmmmkay? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

10-27-2010, 07:21 AM	#14
casimendocina Professor Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,622	Total agreement with Dana and Monster. Same for physical manifestations of affection.

10-27-2010, 07:41 AM	#15
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	One can say the words and do the actions. They are not mutually exclusive ways of being, for some of us. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

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