To my dear friends--

[DanaC]

Originally Posted by Shawnee123

One can say the words and do the actions. They are not mutually exclusive ways of being, for some of us.

I don't see them as mutually exclusive.

[spudcon]

Originally Posted by HungLikeJesus

That must have been cheery.

Actually, it was great fun. Here's a couple of the obits...
Services are not being held on February 20th for Carol xxxxx because she has to work the next day, and also because she ain’t dead.
Carol was born and raised in Utica, Playing hooky for most of her high school years at UFA.
After high school, Carol tried her hand at several occupations and several husbands before settling down with her cat on Paris Hill road.
Those attending the wake should expect to see an empty casket, because, like I said, she ain’t gonna be there.


Services are being held today for Jill xxxx, even though she hasn’t died, because only the good die young. Jill spent many years at xxxxx Power Company, where she held the position of “she who makes sure customers remain on hold till they die of old age”, after working her way up from various phone transferring positions.
Jill is survived by her children, grandchildren, and several ungrateful and insulting friends. Mourners are asked to bring oatmeal and a Hibachi to the service.

[Shawnee123]

I don't see them as mutually exclusive.

Oh, I know. I was just saying that there sometimes seems to be this "if you can't say you love someone then if you do admit love it's way stronger than the love of someone who says the words" idea.

Though I would tend to agree as this pertains to any Tom Dick or Harry (or Thomasina or Dickette or Harriet) who comes along (you know the type: Oh, I LOVE you. Oh wait. No. I love this guy or that guy. I love this chair. I love this streetlamp) I think that when it comes to family, verbalizing or not verbalizing...the meaning isn't lessened by saying it "too much" and even not saying it at all.

We are very lucky people to have family we know we love, we know loves us.

Speaking of verbalizing: I have no idea how to say what I'm trying to say. This was my best effort.

[Shawnee123]

Originally Posted by spudcon

Actually, it was great fun. Here's a couple of the obits...
Services are not being held on February 20th for Carol xxxxx because she has to work the next day, and also because she ain’t dead.
Carol was born and raised in Utica, Playing hooky for most of her high school years at UFA.
After high school, Carol tried her hand at several occupations and several husbands before settling down with her cat on Paris Hill road.
Those attending the wake should expect to see an empty casket, because, like I said, she ain’t gonna be there.


Services are being held today for Jill xxxx, even though she hasn’t died, because only the good die young. Jill spent many years at xxxxx Power Company, where she held the position of “she who makes sure customers remain on hold till they die of old age”, after working her way up from various phone transferring positions.
Jill is survived by her children, grandchildren, and several ungrateful and insulting friends. Mourners are asked to bring oatmeal and a Hibachi to the service.

I like it.

Of course, I've told this story a million times but here's a million and one: I was telling my family that at MY funeral I want an open bar. I want a party. I want people to get up and remember something funny I said or something goofy I did. I want people to laugh and have fun.

My older brother replied: Great! Now that we have it all planned let's set a date!

[monster]

Shawnee, I love you

[Shawnee123]

*snort*

I love you too, you idgit.

[glatt]

Originally Posted by BigV

There will come a time when your loved one will be gone.

Sounds like you're a Stoic.