Is it ever *ok* to cheat?

[Dagney]

Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

I didn't mean to offend anyone who online dates, but I'm just confused about how people can take it seriously.

I'm not offended, was simply trying to explain that the Internet has made things a lot different when it comes to people getting together. The world is a MUCH smaller place these days. I would have never met my husband if it wasn't for the Internet - and we live in the same town. Although we're both interested in many of the same things, I was traveling for work, and he was wrapped up in his own time intensive issues before we got together.
How did I take it seriously? Perhaps it's because I'm beyond the 'quick and dirty hookup' stage of life. BTDT. I wasn't looking for a husband when I met Charles. I was looking for a friend - someone to spend the weekends I was stuck in North Carolina with. He was looking for similar. The relationship grew out of that.

Don't get me wrong, there are a LOT of players out there. Men who lie about being married. Women who lie about their age. Vice Versa. et cetera. You have to have your bullshit meter pegged to HIGH to weed out the goofballs.