Is it ever *ok* to cheat?

[freshnesschronic]

I didn't mean to offend anyone who online dates, but I'm just confused about how people can take it seriously. But I guess I don't know the world of work, soooo meh. I mean I never had a girlfriend until junior year in high school and that took hard social effort for me, a guy no girls had interest in in junior high ever. That is all.
I did create an account at match.com and so did my girlfriend and we tried to see if we would match up but we didn't. That's why I'm like "this is silly."

[Dagney]

Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

I didn't mean to offend anyone who online dates, but I'm just confused about how people can take it seriously.

I'm not offended, was simply trying to explain that the Internet has made things a lot different when it comes to people getting together. The world is a MUCH smaller place these days. I would have never met my husband if it wasn't for the Internet - and we live in the same town. Although we're both interested in many of the same things, I was traveling for work, and he was wrapped up in his own time intensive issues before we got together.
How did I take it seriously? Perhaps it's because I'm beyond the 'quick and dirty hookup' stage of life. BTDT. I wasn't looking for a husband when I met Charles. I was looking for a friend - someone to spend the weekends I was stuck in North Carolina with. He was looking for similar. The relationship grew out of that.

Don't get me wrong, there are a LOT of players out there. Men who lie about being married. Women who lie about their age. Vice Versa. et cetera. You have to have your bullshit meter pegged to HIGH to weed out the goofballs.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

I didn't mean to offend anyone who online dates, but I'm just confused about how people can take it seriously. But I guess I don't know the world of work, soooo meh. I mean I never had a girlfriend until junior year in high school and that took hard social effort for me, a guy no girls had interest in in junior high ever. That is all.
I did create an account at match.com and so did my girlfriend and we tried to see if we would match up but we didn't. That's why I'm like "this is silly."

This is one of those things that won't make sense till you get there. There are many more surprises coming, too.