Fucking Hell

[IamSam]

Originally Posted by Big Sarge

From what I can discern, it was accidental

How do you know, Sarge? Just asking.

As I posted in the other Trilby/Brianna thread, all my alarm bells when off when she posted about drinking and taking tranquilizers and going to bed. VERY bad combo. I knew two other alcoholics who died that way - one of whom I felt terribly guilty about to this day. I went on a "12 Step" call to him with another alcoholic. We literally spent hours with that man, and he seemed OK when we finally left. He apparently over-dosed soon after our departure.

You can only do so much. If a person is determined to die - and poor Trilby must have been. She was very intelligent plus she was an RN for heaven's sake. She knew very well the dangers of drinking and taking tranquilizers at the same time.

No one here should feel guilty. Many if not most of us didn't know how to contact her IRL, and the Internet, even the Cellar has its limits. Trilby posted many times about her drinking, depression, etc. How could anyone know that her last posts were actually going to be her last?

The last pm I ever sent her was filled with concern, and I begged her to call another alcoholic - me (or anyone else) - and talk through what was going on with her. She never called and she never answered my pm.

Poor Trilby! I can understand her suffering at least somewhat. I hope she is in a better place. At least she is in peace at long last.

PS Why is this thread in "Nothingland"? No offense to Monster, but Trilby was SOMETHING! She will be remembered and missed probably for as long as there's a Cellar.

[monster]

Originally Posted by IamSam

PS Why is this thread in "Nothingland"? No offense to Monster, but Trilby was SOMETHING! She will be remembered and missed probably for as long as there's a Cellar.

Because it was a selfish threadabout how I felt, not a thread of condolence and not necessarily something for her boys to read, so I put it where they probably wouldn't find it and titled it appropriately. In hindsight, one of my better moves.

[IamSam]

Originally Posted by monster

Because it was a selfish threadabout how I felt, not a thread of condolence and not necessarily something for her boys to read, so I put it where they probably wouldn't find it and titled it appropriately. In hindsight, one of my better moves.

hmmm... I see your point. It just seems so sad for her to end up in "Nothingland." Maybe I'm just too hung up on semantics.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Sam, she's all over, under, and through the Cellar fabric, so why not here too. It's not disrespect, it's inclusion.

[Big Sarge]

Originally Posted by IamSam

How do you know, Sarge? Just asking.

As I posted in the other Trilby/Brianna thread, all my alarm bells when off when she posted about drinking and taking tranquilizers and going to bed. VERY bad combo. I knew two other alcoholics who died that way - one of whom I felt terribly guilty about to this day. I went on a "12 Step" call to him with another alcoholic. We literally spent hours with that man, and he seemed OK when we finally left. He apparently over-dosed soon after our departure.

You can only do so much. If a person is determined to die - and poor Trilby must have been. She was very intelligent plus she was an RN for heaven's sake. She knew very well the dangers of drinking and taking tranquilizers at the same time.
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I say accidental because she had counseled me closely about mixing but also admitted to doing the same.