This really sucks.

[limey]

Originally Posted by monster

and crash...... I keep finding things of his and deal with them like he was still here. Because. I don't know. It's not like I haven't thrown stuff of his away. but most is still here

Keep the stuff you want to keep. Get rid of the stuff you want to get rid of. If you have any doubts keep it for now. It's a long, l-o-o-o-ng process, I'm afraid. When we'd just lost my brother there were all sorts of things we just couldn't imagine getting rid of because well, just because (and we didn't even live with him and his stuff at the time). As time passed we have begun to feel we can let some of it go, but some still stays. Is used. Or just looked at now and again.
Hugs to you xxx

[monster]

Originally Posted by limey

Keep the stuff you want to keep. Get rid of the stuff you want to get rid of. If you have any doubts keep it for now. It's a long, l-o-o-o-ng process, I'm afraid. When we'd just lost my brother there were all sorts of things we just couldn't imagine getting rid of because well, just because (and we didn't even live with him and his stuff at the time). As time passed we have begun to feel we can let some of it go, but some still stays. Is used. Or just looked at now and again.
Hugs to you xxx

Yeah, I'm just doing it as I can be bothered/the mood takes me. But I occasionally find myself just dealing with things as if he'll use them again rather than deciding whether I want to toss it now or leave it for another day.

I miss him.

[limey]

Originally Posted by monster

... But I occasionally find myself just dealing with things as if he'll use them again rather than deciding whether I want to toss it now or leave it for another day.

But that's fine. You can't keep on making big decisions about this stuff all the time. Just putting things away without deciding anything is also good.

Originally Posted by monster

I miss him.

Yes. x

[Pete Zicato]

Oh Monster. I am so sorry to hear this. Virtual hugs sent your way.

The fates are cruel.

[DanaC]

Originally Posted by Pete Zicato

The fates are cruel.

They are and savagely so.


Easy for me to say, I know, but try not to second guess your decisions about things like this. What you need to be doing, is what you are doing at any given moment. Sometimes that means not making a decision and that's ok too. It takes what it takes.

Be kind to yourself hon.