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lumberjim · 06-10-2004, 12:10 PM

catwoman,

I am going to take a shot in the dark and guess that this confusion of yours stems from the odd relationship between your 2 roomates and yourself. You are struggling with your expectations of the male? you feel dissapointed by his lack of reciprocity of your Intent?

I recall a moment of clarity from my single days, when I realized that if I seperated my expectations of what would come from a relationship I was in, I would enjoy the ride for what it was, and not compare it to what I wanted it to be. Can this be called enlightenment? I dunno. don't really care. It made me feel better. It is good to have expectations, but not good to beat yourself up over a dissapointment. The lesson here is to NOT let the dissapointment you felt in the past effect your expectation of the future. If you can seperate in your mind what is from what you want, and still work toward what you want ( keeping in mind that it does not always work) you may find it to be an easier road to travel.

am i way off? or is this one of those moments of occasional wisdom?

06-10-2004, 12:10 PM	#11
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	catwoman, I am going to take a shot in the dark and guess that this confusion of yours stems from the odd relationship between your 2 roomates and yourself. You are struggling with your expectations of the male? you feel dissapointed by his lack of reciprocity of your Intent? I recall a moment of clarity from my single days, when I realized that if I seperated my expectations of what would come from a relationship I was in, I would enjoy the ride for what it was, and not compare it to what I wanted it to be. Can this be called enlightenment? I dunno. don't really care. It made me feel better. It is good to have expectations, but not good to beat yourself up over a dissapointment. The lesson here is to NOT let the dissapointment you felt in the past effect your expectation of the future. If you can seperate in your mind what is from what you want, and still work toward what you want ( keeping in mind that it does not always work) you may find it to be an easier road to travel. am i way off? or is this one of those moments of occasional wisdom? __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

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