Need advice on a personal situation

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Originally Posted by hot_pastrami

Your boyfriend's ex sounds like a bitch from Hell. It is rare that a person would consider themselves evil, yet people like your boyfriend's ex do seemingly evil things on a regular basis. The interesting thing is that most people who do such things feel completely justified in their actions. People tend to compromise their principles more readily than they realize when they believe it will result in "justice."

I figure that your boyfriend's ex must have such a delicate self-image that she can't admit wrongdoing without putting her self-image in jeapardy. To protect their self-image, such people unconsciously prop up flawed logic with true facts, selectively employed, thinking that they can nullify facts that disagree with their logic with those that support it. They become blind to reason on the matter.

This results in victim mentality, which produces exagerrated feelings of entitlement (to make up for perceived wrongs that have been done to them). If such a person is unhappy, the cycle accelerates, and any little thing can snowball into huge feelings of entitlement. That person may then sacrifice their principles and do nasty things, viewing them as necessary to achieve "justice." The farther down this road one goes, the more one is invested in it, and the more cemented the original flawed logic must become to protect their self-image.

This sounds *exactly* like that family. They have a lot of money, but they have sort of swindled it out of people, with all kinds of justification attached to it. When you call them on it, they get into attack mode, hurling insult after insult at the accuser as if to make you seem worse than them. Kind of like "well, they pointed out my shirt was red, but look, his shirt is GREEN!"

They are messed up, emotionally...all of them. I can't wait to afford a psych evaluator for that group of loonies.