A worky-type question

BigV · 06-29-2005, 07:31 PM

I echo the comments above regarding the truth that $50 is small compared to help in one's career through the years. Cheap don't enter into it. However, I reckon that the mentor knows already the mentee's gratitude. I would certainly hope so. And the "dinner" was clearly not the mentee's idea given his penchant for frugality. If I were the mentor, I would understand either way. Id "know" my mentee, and wouldn't judge him on this call. Perhaps seeing him at the dinner and being able to infer the personal cost to him I would understand what a gesture his presence represents.

I think it's useful to observe that even though the party is in the retiree's honor, the decision to have the pay as you go dinner was the brainchild of the other attendees, not the guest of honor. You'd be confronting them on the $$ issue.

Which brings up another question. Why isn't the company paying for the dinner? If it's just us guys out for fun, we all pay our way, but if it's a work celebration, anniversary, retirement, everywhere I've been, the boss picked up the bill. Maybe that's not the company dynamic here...seems kinda cheap though.

SteveDallas · 06-29-2005, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by BigV

Why isn't the company paying for the dinner? If it's just us guys out for fun, we all pay our way, but if it's a work celebration, anniversary, retirement, everywhere I've been, the boss picked up the bill. Maybe that's not the company dynamic here...seems kinda cheap though.

There is a company-wide lunch for the boss. Whether this dinner is an "official" function or not is extremely ambiguous. My friend was not originally on the guest list and was added at the last minute. (To be fair it was supposed to be "senior management" and the person setting it up didn't realize that included my friend.)

lookout123 · 06-29-2005, 09:31 PM

well, with that little bit of info i would say that it is even more crucial that he pony up and go along for the ride.

A) $50 isn't too much to pay for honoring a friend and mentor
B) if he is senior mgmt and the others didn't know it, this is his chance to make his membership in their club known.
C) if he isn't senior mgmt and they included him it would be very unwise to reject the invite.

xoxoxoBruce · 06-29-2005, 09:35 PM

Pay it and take a BIG doggie bag.

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06-29-2005, 07:31 PM	#1
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	I echo the comments above regarding the truth that $50 is small compared to help in one's career through the years. Cheap don't enter into it. However, I reckon that the mentor knows already the mentee's gratitude. I would certainly hope so. And the "dinner" was clearly not the mentee's idea given his penchant for frugality. If I were the mentor, I would understand either way. Id "know" my mentee, and wouldn't judge him on this call. Perhaps seeing him at the dinner and being able to infer the personal cost to him I would understand what a gesture his presence represents. I think it's useful to observe that even though the party is in the retiree's honor, the decision to have the pay as you go dinner was the brainchild of the other attendees, not the guest of honor. You'd be confronting them on the $$ issue. Which brings up another question. Why isn't the company paying for the dinner? If it's just us guys out for fun, we all pay our way, but if it's a work celebration, anniversary, retirement, everywhere I've been, the boss picked up the bill. Maybe that's not the company dynamic here...seems kinda cheap though. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

06-29-2005, 09:31 PM	#3
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	well, with that little bit of info i would say that it is even more crucial that he pony up and go along for the ride. A) $50 isn't too much to pay for honoring a friend and mentor B) if he is senior mgmt and the others didn't know it, this is his chance to make his membership in their club known. C) if he isn't senior mgmt and they included him it would be very unwise to reject the invite. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

06-29-2005, 09:35 PM	#4
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Pay it and take a BIG doggie bag. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

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