Nobody's Talkin' At Me...

[Rock Steady]

Originally Posted by Brianna

for the love of god-WHY???

That's a complicated question, naturally. I'll try to give you the Cliff Notes version.

One factor is my Avoidance Syndrome. Instead of fixing something, I'd start over (eg, instead of fixing my job, go out and get a new job). Life is screwed up, become a different person, or fantasize about it.

Another is that I am a pleaser. I identify with women who talk about how that has kept them from taking care of their own needs, and how hard it was to please a controlling dominant father. A lot of guys talk about how when they were younger felt they could do anything and had lots of confidence. I always felt inadequate and don't identify with that.

I don't like the posturing of career-oriented men. I do it real well, but it is a strain to put up the facade. After talking with some women about this, it is a case of the grass being greener on the other side. Women can be tough on each other too.

Finally, men are plain. Women have a lot of freedom of expression with makeup and the variety of clothing they can wear. It seems like it's more fun to be female.