After your Ex, Moving Forward: Dating again

[sharpness]

Yep - I'm with Ridgeplate get out to some social activities as you aint gonna meet anyone sitting indoors and waiting for it to happen. Clubs is good - even married you need to get out and meet new people and social circles or else your friends are just those at work. We belonged to a church years back and that was an ideal pool for meeting people but that all went tits up (am I allowed to say that) so now its hard to find new friends. In the uk if you try dating on line there are loads a women to choose from but never tried it just browsed - funny tho cos online it seems most mid late 30s women are either divored with kids and baggage or not settled down and a bit desparate. mmm.... choices - maybe thats a little hard but I'm sure you know where I'm coming from.

[SouthOfNoNorth]

to be honest, i was on the verge of posting something like this myself and getting everyone's opinion.

just got out of a long term (almost 6 years) relationship. as a matter of fact, i might have seen this thread sooner had i not been dealing with some of the aftermath of that. it seems like a lot of people on here have at least tried the online dating thing and i wanted to ask what the general consensus was. i think that some of you have even met someone and are in a relationship as a result of it. thumbs up?

it seems to me that the experiences you have online vary depending mostly upon your age and sex (duh, but they seem to be heavily related to age, more than i would think). opinions? i'm 28, and i'm sure that might seem like a whipper snapper to some of you but i DO feel a little old and out of touch with the dating scene. that's probably because the last time i was in the market was in college, where you meet people whether you want to or not.

in theory, online dating seems like the perfect idea to me. you're not dependent upon chance or what bar you happen to be at or whatever. you can learn a lot about a person in a short period of time (factual things, likes/dislikes, general info) before you try and get to know them better. but then, there's always the chance of setting up a meeting place with a girl and getting chloroformed by a 260 pound guy named larry........

[xoxoxoBruce]

Likely one's distance from the dating scene rather than age is more important about one's fear of it.

Larry and his cloroform aren't a problem in public places. Anyone you meet online, that doesn't insist on a public place for a face-to-face, you probably don't want to meet anyway.

[SouthOfNoNorth]

heh, agreed. i'll still keep a transmitter in my undies in case i come up missing, though.

anyone have any recommendations for good sites to use? i made a fark personals (yes, i know) account a while ago but have never used it, except to search a bit.

i'm not afraid of the dating scene or meeting/talking to people, as a matter of fact many people tell me that communication is one of my strongest qualities. problem is, most of my friends are in marriages/long term committed relationships, so it would be difficult to meet people while i'm "out" with them because of where they like to go. can't say that i blame them, either. when i was in a relationship i didn't feel compelled to go "out" all the time. another thing, many of the single women that i ran into before were as a result of her friendships - heh, something i don't think i can count on now.