Assumptions about other Cellar users

[Trilby]

I have always assumed that all Cellarites know better than I do and have more and better life experiences than I do and are certainly much more worthy. I live by that.

[xoxoxoBruce]

And that Brianna, goes straight to the heart of your problem. IT'S NOT TRUE.
Understand that, and you're on your way. You won't need to be reassured daily.

[Rock Steady]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

And that Brianna, goes straight to the heart of your problem. IT'S NOT TRUE.
Understand that, and you're on your way. You won't need to be reassured daily.

I need to be reassured daily. I need to feel the love. We should have a Daily Reassurance Thread for all us insecure dregs to beat ourselves up in.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by Rock Steady

I need to be reassured daily. I need to feel the love. We should have a Daily Reassurance Thread for all us insecure dregs to beat ourselves up in.

Do you feel it fair for you to put the burden of your comfort on other people?

[Rock Steady]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Do you feel it fair for you to put the burden of your comfort on other people?

No. I do not require you to read my posts. Any burden you may have is self inflicted.

But, seriously, I need positive feedback in the workplace. If people don't appreciate my work, I feel bad about myself. I tie my self worth to my career too much, and in jobs I have had some low lows and high highs, never a dull moment.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by Rock Steady

But, seriously, I need positive feedback in the workplace. If people don't appreciate my work, I feel bad about myself. I tie my self worth to my career too much, and in jobs I have had some low lows and high highs, never a dull moment.

That's too bad, you know if you've done a good job or not, but if you don't hold a grudge against cow-orkers that don't gush as much as you desire, at least you're only hurting yourself.
Still, it's a shame to put yourself through that.

[Rock Steady]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

That's too bad, you know if you've done a good job or not, but if you don't hold a grudge against cow-orkers that don't gush as much as you desire, at least you're only hurting yourself.
Still, it's a shame to put yourself through that.

I know what you are saying. But, you must realize that this is not Black and White but in full technicolor.

For me, all I need are the basic, normal human considerations, which doesn't happen at an arrogant company.

As for co-workers, actually, in 1999 I managed a group of 5 software engineers. One guy was way too needy. Even though I met with each of them every day, this guy left the building with me each day and spoke in the parking lot with me for a half hour before I could go home. After a while, some people in the company noticed and we talked about how this guy was draining my energy.

There is a big difference between Needy and Normal. EVERYONE deserves a certain amount of feedback in the workplace.

[skysidhe]

Originally Posted by Brianna

I have always assumed that all Cellarites know better than I do and have more and better life experiences than I do and are certainly much more worthy. I live by that.

*tease with a grin*
ahh, but do they have a purple living room? I bet not.

I want better life experiences too but I am too chicken to be cool. You're cool.

[Beestie]

Originally Posted by Brianna

I have always assumed that all Cellarites know better than I do and have more and better life experiences than I do and are certainly much more worthy.

[smack upside yo head] Bullshit. [/smack]