Why Can't Men Say the Things We Women Need to Hear?

I agree with you, this is wrong, but as far removed from romance as the problem as something can be.
This is a common courtesy/caring issue... wayyyy beyond lack of communication.
We learned long ago, those whom it is easiest to forget to be polite to are those you need to be the most polite to, the most often.
An excuse me for a burp in bed goes a LONG damn way.
Please pardon me for saying so, but it is time for marriage counseling... trust me, I know.
The other side of this is... what do you think you can do to make him understand how he is making you feel? Obviously other than telling him without guilt trips, yelling or crying.

[xoxoxoBruce]

So, yes...I guess I'm still a little bitter about that and other times he's hurt my feelings.

This is one of the reasons men don't share their feelings. Women don't let anything go, they remember every slight, real and imagined, including feelings shared they don't want to hear.

I realize that's a broad brush and there are exceptions, BUT, I've seen it happen so much, to me and others, I firmly believe it.
I've had statements I supposedly made, quoted to me out of context, 22 fucking years later.

[MaggieL]

Originally Posted by rkzenrage

This is a common courtesy/caring issue... wayyyy beyond lack of communication.

Those are all bound up together. If communication is successful, courtesy and caring follow--and vice versa; you have to care to want to communicate.

Oh, the other possible outcome of sucessful communication is homicde. Biut that's rarer :-).