Need some help

[Elspode]

I wouldn't say you should dump him, but he definitely needs to examine himself. I've found that people who aren't carrying a boatload of baggage and acting out some sort of problems within themselves seldom end up in jail. I know a lot of people who have gotten DUI's and still didn't go to jail.

Whoever was supervising your boyfriend's house arrest, in all likelihood, did *not* put him in slam due to being behind on his bracelet payments. He was more likely put there for shock value, because the supervising official didn't like the trend he was seeing (no job, etc), and he wanted to shake up the equation.

I guess what I'm saying is this: Are you looking beyond the jail occurance to try and understand what lies beneath? Are you making sure that all of this turmoil is completely anomalous, rather than the natural outcome of decisions and actions your boyfriend has made up to this point?

I won't say leave him, but I will definitely say that you need to be objectively aware of what it is that put him in the position he is in to begin with.