tired of drama

Trilby · 08-28-2006, 03:35 PM

bbro--I don't know you in the slightest, I only know what you have posted (and, omitted) here. My feelings come from having seen/heard this many times. These are my questions (ones you've never answered, and no, you certainly do NOT have to answer them to me or anyone but perhaps YOURSELF)

1) What number is this DUI for him? It cannot be his first. I got a DUI in '04 My first. I was not sent to jail, I was not put on probation (that was for something else) and I even got off on a 'failure to maintain distance' complaint because I didn't take the breathalizer. SO. How many DUI's are we talking? Because I have a feeling it's far, far from his first consequence of alcohol or drug abuse.

2) What did he do to land on probation? Perhaps if this was his 3rd, 4th, 5th DUI or was it something else? Maybe he did an B&E. Who knows? Doesn't really matter to anyone but you and him. Anyway--he is on probation and probation officers HIGHLY recommend that you be a very good citizen while on probation. I wonder why he messed up when he knew how seriously he was being scrutinized.

3) What did he do to fuck up probation?
And, be honest with yourself here.

4) how many times has he been married?

Probation officers are usually so overworked and overbooked that they only take real interest in those who pique the radar. WHY is the system against him? Have they dealt with him before? Do they KNOW him?

It's really no matter to me if you stay or go or sink your heart, soul and savings into this guy. It's YOU. YOU matter and I've a feeling you've given yourself away. That is what bothers me.

and, actually, I am rather reassured that you are 26. i thought you were younger.

bbro · 08-28-2006, 04:02 PM

1) What number is this DUI for him?
It is his second

2) What did he do to land on probation?
That was the original sentance when he was charged. He has just been fighting it a while

3) What did he do to fuck up probation?
The ankle bracelet was tampered with (broke)and he had a dirty sample

4) how many times has he been married?
None

Probation officers are usually so overworked and overbooked that they only take real interest in those who pique the radar. WHY is the system against him?
He does know a lot of people in the actual system because of where he grew up.

Have they dealt with him before?
He has never dealt with this probation officer before - he is a bit of a dick, I met him a couple of times.

Do they KNOW him?
He was in trouble for something else, but his probation officer was in a different section and thinks very highly of him and even calls to check on him even though he is all done with it.

I think what makes me seem younger is my lack of life experience. I mean, yea, I have some things, but not nearly as much as some people here.

rkzenrage - I am definately thinking it through every day.

xoxoxoBruce · 08-28-2006, 11:39 PM

Alcohol is a tough monkey to shake and can't be without wanting to and help.
You can be the reason for wanting to and the help, but you have to be aware the battle is never over with booze.

If you feel you're up to it, go for it, but don't get complacent, because it'll bite you on your lovely butt.

08-28-2006, 03:35 PM	#1
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	bbro--I don't know you in the slightest, I only know what you have posted (and, omitted) here. My feelings come from having seen/heard this many times. These are my questions (ones you've never answered, and no, you certainly do NOT have to answer them to me or anyone but perhaps YOURSELF) 1) What number is this DUI for him? It cannot be his first. I got a DUI in '04 My first. I was not sent to jail, I was not put on probation (that was for something else) and I even got off on a 'failure to maintain distance' complaint because I didn't take the breathalizer. SO. How many DUI's are we talking? Because I have a feeling it's far, far from his first consequence of alcohol or drug abuse. 2) What did he do to land on probation? Perhaps if this was his 3rd, 4th, 5th DUI or was it something else? Maybe he did an B&E. Who knows? Doesn't really matter to anyone but you and him. Anyway--he is on probation and probation officers HIGHLY recommend that you be a very good citizen while on probation. I wonder why he messed up when he knew how seriously he was being scrutinized. 3) What did he do to fuck up probation? And, be honest with yourself here. 4) how many times has he been married? Probation officers are usually so overworked and overbooked that they only take real interest in those who pique the radar. WHY is the system against him? Have they dealt with him before? Do they KNOW him? It's really no matter to me if you stay or go or sink your heart, soul and savings into this guy. It's YOU. YOU matter and I've a feeling you've given yourself away. That is what bothers me. and, actually, I am rather reassured that you are 26. i thought you were younger. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

08-28-2006, 04:02 PM	#2
bbro Insert witty comment here Join Date: May 2004 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 2,182	1) What number is this DUI for him? It is his second 2) What did he do to land on probation? That was the original sentance when he was charged. He has just been fighting it a while 3) What did he do to fuck up probation? The ankle bracelet was tampered with (broke)and he had a dirty sample 4) how many times has he been married? None Probation officers are usually so overworked and overbooked that they only take real interest in those who pique the radar. WHY is the system against him? He does know a lot of people in the actual system because of where he grew up. Have they dealt with him before? He has never dealt with this probation officer before - he is a bit of a dick, I met him a couple of times. Do they KNOW him? He was in trouble for something else, but his probation officer was in a different section and thinks very highly of him and even calls to check on him even though he is all done with it. I think what makes me seem younger is my lack of life experience. I mean, yea, I have some things, but not nearly as much as some people here. rkzenrage - I am definately thinking it through every day. Last edited by bbro; 08-28-2006 at 04:06 PM.

08-28-2006, 11:39 PM	#3
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Alcohol is a tough monkey to shake and can't be without wanting to and help. You can be the reason for wanting to and the help, but you have to be aware the battle is never over with booze. If you feel you're up to it, go for it, but don't get complacent, because it'll bite you on your lovely butt. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

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