Try Not To Get Sick During What is Effectively a Holiday Weekend

Elspode · 10-03-2006, 12:50 PM

Sorry to hear about the disruption, Wolf. It is gonna be tough when you're the only one in charge after Sis leaves. I hope your mother knows how blessed she is to have children who care...I have a friend whose mother is in rehab right now, and my friend earnestly wishes that the woman would die.

xoxoxoBruce · 10-03-2006, 01:38 PM

That sounds bad Els, but it could be some compassion fueling it.

My Moms been in the Hospital/rehab loop, a bunch of times this year.
I asked my Brother, who lives with her, "Is this the point where from here on, when she dies, we'll all say it's for the best?"
He understood, saying it was a fair question.
He also said, yes.

There comes a point when the person you love isn't having fun anymore.
Every day is a struggle, painful for them and everyone who loves them.
Of course you do everything humanly possible to make their life as pain free as you can.
But it's a heavy blow to their ego, self image, pride, that you're sort of helpless to affect, no matter how much you love and respect them.

The natural progression. The natural order of things. To some, their chosen Deity's will.
But that doesn't change the fact that it sucks..... for the caregiver and recipient.

Wolf is a strong woman, but she's doing a really tough job and is going to need all the good vibes we can send her.

Elspode · 10-04-2006, 12:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

That sounds bad Els, but it could be some compassion fueling it.

I only wish that it *was* compassion, Bruce, but it isn't...she hates her mother, she resents her mom being demanding, petulant and unappreciative. She feels that mom is manipulative and weak. She resents having to deal with her mother's decline and feels that her mom should have been better prepared financially and practically for her later years. In short...no compassion, just hostility and resentment. Mom isn't *that* sick, as in "death is imminent" sick. No, this is only going to get worse, and it pains me to hear it.

I know the woman is no saint, but jeez...at the end of life, your family members deserve respect and assistance, even if it is inconvenient, even if they weren't your favorite person to begin with. Hell, strangers deserve that.

xoxoxoBruce · 10-04-2006, 10:51 PM

Gotcha.....daughters and wives....once they turn on ya, you might as well be dead...

Griff · 10-05-2006, 06:28 AM

Good luck Wolf. I'm praying for you guys.

10-03-2006, 12:50 PM	#1
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	Sorry to hear about the disruption, Wolf. It is gonna be tough when you're the only one in charge after Sis leaves. I hope your mother knows how blessed she is to have children who care...I have a friend whose mother is in rehab right now, and my friend earnestly wishes that the woman would die. __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

10-03-2006, 01:38 PM	#2
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	That sounds bad Els, but it could be some compassion fueling it. My Moms been in the Hospital/rehab loop, a bunch of times this year. I asked my Brother, who lives with her, "Is this the point where from here on, when she dies, we'll all say it's for the best?" He understood, saying it was a fair question. He also said, yes. There comes a point when the person you love isn't having fun anymore. Every day is a struggle, painful for them and everyone who loves them. Of course you do everything humanly possible to make their life as pain free as you can. But it's a heavy blow to their ego, self image, pride, that you're sort of helpless to affect, no matter how much you love and respect them. The natural progression. The natural order of things. To some, their chosen Deity's will. But that doesn't change the fact that it sucks..... for the caregiver and recipient. Wolf is a strong woman, but she's doing a really tough job and is going to need all the good vibes we can send her. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

10-04-2006, 10:51 PM	#4
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Gotcha.....daughters and wives....once they turn on ya, you might as well be dead... __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

10-05-2006, 06:28 AM	#5
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Good luck Wolf. I'm praying for you guys. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)