Can it be my turn to cry? (Long VENT. Like a novel.)

Shawnee123 · 11-03-2006, 10:17 AM

Hoof...go for oak!

Sometimes partners can be so obtuse. But you said you know he loves you, and that is important.

I am currently leaving a relationship where I know he stopped loving me...very painful. I knew he wasn't the type to do special things for me, but I felt he loved me.

Hold on to love as long as you can. Hopefully forever. And happy 40th...I will be 42 on Sunday and I have NO IDEA how I got here!

glatt · 11-03-2006, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Hoof Hearted

He does love me. I know he does. He showed it this summer by caring for me when I was so ill and couldn't wash my own hair. I think perhaps I fell into the well of expecting my husband to read my mind. I'm going to let it drop. BUT...I think I will tell him I want to go bedroom furniture shopping.
I have to make him pay in some way!

I was trying to think of a delicate way to suggest this. I would never throw a surprise party for my wife. It simply wouldn't occur to me. Apparently it didn't occur to him. I have no idea what sort of communication you guys have in your relationship, but it sounds like there might be room for improvement. I also think letting it drop is a bad idea. I don't think you should hold it over him as leverage, but you need to let him know how you feel and what you were hoping for. Communication really is key.

And I agree with the sentiments so far that the house guests have to go. They are putting an unfair strain on your home life. Your own family should come first. This is also something you should talk with him about, and the TWO of you need to present a united front with whatever you decide together. It shouldn't be you alone blowing up. That makes you out to be the bad guy. You're not.

Griff · 11-03-2006, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by glatt

I was trying to think of a delicate way to suggest this. I would never throw a surprise party for my wife. It simply wouldn't occur to me. Apparently it didn't occur to him.

Pete would want to kick my a** if I hit her with a suprise party. It would tick me off if she did that to me as well so I guess we understand each other.

glatt · 11-03-2006, 10:52 AM

I've never been a big fan of surprise parties either. Virtually every one I've been to, the guests all know that the honoree is in the know, but we are going through the motions so the person throwing the party doesn't realize the jig is up.

11-03-2006, 10:17 AM	#1
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Hoof...go for oak! Sometimes partners can be so obtuse. But you said you know he loves you, and that is important. I am currently leaving a relationship where I know he stopped loving me...very painful. I knew he wasn't the type to do special things for me, but I felt he loved me. Hold on to love as long as you can. Hopefully forever. And happy 40th...I will be 42 on Sunday and I have NO IDEA how I got here! __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

11-03-2006, 10:52 AM	#4
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I've never been a big fan of surprise parties either. Virtually every one I've been to, the guests all know that the honoree is in the know, but we are going through the motions so the person throwing the party doesn't realize the jig is up.

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