Can it be my turn to cry? (Long VENT. Like a novel.)

[lhatcher]

My suggestion is to start changing your communication style. Make it a 'from this day forward' kind of thing. The very next time you have the opportunity to express how you feel about something, take a deep breath and just say it. If it's not fine, don't say 'yeah whatever, that's fine.' I used to have a hard time telling anyone something I thought they did not want to hear. But I have learned that to be fair to yourself and your own peace, you have to be honest with other people. If you're not, then your constantly lying to people and that's not right.

And find an opportunity to tell your house guests that it has gone way past the original offer of temporary housing.
Not to get everyone all upset and yelling, but it has to be all right to start a conversation about it and calmly say 'this is causing a whole different set of problems from the problems it was intended to solve. Let's talk about how we can change this. No offense, but I'm not happy with this living arrangement any more. And you know what? They may act offended and go away mad, but they have to know you are right. They don't have to like it but they won't truly dislike YOU for being honest with them.

This is way past my two cents I know, it's more like $1.50 now, but IMHO you should just talk with your husband. Tell him what you told us, what you expected, what you wanted, your disappointment, and tell him you have a problem expressing yourself honestly. You deserve to get what makes you happy, but people can't read yourmind.. you have to ask for it.