94 and Counting

[CaliforniaMama]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Why haven't the step-children stepped in, if they dislike the companion?

They are gutless and she won't listen to them anyway. If they did that there would definitely be hell to pay! Plus they know it isn't their place . . .

Originally Posted by monster

Why won't the agency be able to find anyone else?

Are there no other agencies?

I've got to find out if there are other agencies. Because she is so old, the agency won't refer someone who doesn't have health-care experience and if someone has health-care experience they have to be paid.

Ironically, my aunt doesn't need any health-care so that's not even an issue in my book, but she is hard as hell to live with and I think that's the real problem.

Originally Posted by marichiko

What does "being available" mean? Just hanging out with your aunt? Does your aunt LIKE this person? If your aunt still has all her wits about her and can still walk around, and has someone who already does the cleaning, why does she need a "companion"? Why doesn't she just get one of those medical alert things that she can wear around her neck in case she falls?

Take the car away. A family of 5 may one day thank you for it.

Being available is essentially just being a phone call away, being ready to deal with anything she wants/needs. I'm two hours away, so daily visits aren't a possibility and if I did that she'd think I was checking up on her!

She likes her companion as well as she'd like anyone, I guess.

She thinks her primary need is to have someone there at night and during bathing in case she falls. In reality, that has not been an issue and the companion has never had to help her at night. It is more a security blanket than a real need.

She does have the medical alert necklace, but I don't think she trusts it.

Yeah, this whole driving thing is really sinking in as top priority. Don't know why I didn't see it before.

The funny thing is, when my aunt wanted my uncle to stop driving she hid his drivers' license. He thought he lost it and wouldn't drive without it. Simple solution.

If only my aunt was that simple . . .