Sweetness that changed you

[Elspode]

About 30 odd years ago, I had an old girlfriend tell me that I was an ass...hurtful, arrogant, egotistical, self-centered and generally a jerk. However, she told me all of this with love and friendship. She gave me specific examples of my behavior that had been hurtful to others, including herself, and never once got angry or vengeful about it.

I took it deeply to heart. She was and is a person whom I care for and respect, intelligent and generally wonderful in most every way. I have spent the subsequent years trying very, very hard to feel and subsequently project humility, consideration and respect. I hope that I have, in some measure, succeeded.

Of all the debts I owe to a person in my life, this is perhaps the most important, because her kindness on that day probably has saved me from a life of complete loneliness and emptiness.

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Originally Posted by Elspode

About 30 odd years ago, I had an old girlfriend tell me that I was an ass...hurtful, arrogant, egotistical, self-centered and generally a jerk. However, she told me all of this with love and friendship. She gave me specific examples of my behavior that had been hurtful to others, including herself, and never once got angry or vengeful about it.

When you find something precious on the inside of someone. When you find a friend who you can't /don't want to walk away from you proceed to rock someones world. I hope our(my partner and I) outcome has simular results.


I had been alone for along time. I meet my poetry partner online who turned out to be my best friend in real life...after three years of being alone without boyfriend, or any friends for that matter I determined to have a healthy social life because it was the 'right thing to do' when preaching to a kid about social things. I did not want to be a hypocrite so I told myself the next person who asked me out , whom I didn't get red flags over or feel like running away from I would go out with.

I met that person and there was a cosmic connection. This person is someone totally opposite of me. He is loud, brash, rude,egotistical and laughs constantly. He has a temper but so do I. He brings so much of living into my life. I am even on occassion slighly overwhelmed and need to take a couple steps back and he with all understanding accepts it. This is sweetness one dosn't have to be in love to appreciate. We appreciate each others gifts.