Tattoo You?

[Pooka]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

@ Flint. Do the people you come in contact with know it's from your first marriage? Or is it just because you know? For yourself, it seems to me, a scar would be just as much a reminder as the tat. Just the satisfaction of obliterating the last tangible evidence?

I know you asked Flint, not me, but.... I'm terrible about butting in...

Everyone we know is aware it is from the first marriage... which really doesn't matter. They all know the circumstances and it is no big deal. We generally forget it is even there until new people we meet comment on it which leads to the conversation about it being from a former marriage... apologies are issued... etc.
The "marriage" was of so little consequence that it doesn't merit that much attention. It could have been annulled, but that required more effort on our part than the divorce process... (we divorced our former spouses at the same time... made a date out of it actually). It has nothing to do with pain... it is more of an annoyance than anything.

Personally, I wouldn't want to wear my old wedding rings either (not to mention it would sort of be insulting) fortunately, mine weren't tattooed, but if they had been... I'm with Flint. I'd rather have a flesh toned scar than the actual tattoo... why replace something you were talked into in the first place with something else you don't want... just be done with it.

Flint doesn't wear metal rings on his fingers... his wedding band is worn on a chain... occasionally... when he remembers to wear it... actually we are both pretty bad about putting our rings on... ring or no ring... we're still married.