For the Longest Time... - Page 4

lookout123 · 11-08-2007, 10:20 AM

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don't look for it, just wait for it to come to you?

NO! i'm saying go make it happen! don't sit around and wait for people to interact with you - go find someone to interact with. the rest will progress fairly naturally. you've got to take the initiative.

DanaC · 11-08-2007, 10:23 AM

Ibby, my advice is build friendships for now. There's time enough for love (as heinlein would put it :P).

Mockingbird · 11-08-2007, 10:24 AM

I'll add to that, too. In high school I was aware of crowds and cliques, but I didn't join in with it. I ignored it and painted pictures all day, that was what I wanted to do anyway. When people liked it, awesome, when they didn't, awesome. I liked what I did and I didn't care what crowd anyone was from.

As a result, everyone just called me the 'art kid' and I wasn't lumped in with anyone -- everyone talked to me 'cause I would talk to everyone else. Break out of the cliquey mold stuff, Ibram -- become your own clique. BE THE RULING BODY OF YOURSELF AND ET CETERA

TOO MUCH COFFEE

AUGH

ZenGum · 11-08-2007, 10:24 AM

I just wanted to say, Mockingbird's goat strategy is bloody brilliant. She almost has to talk with you, and it'll make her laugh which is always a huge bonus. Especially if she is an arty/coffee-shop girl, she'll be impressed by your surrealist grove. Why didn't I think of that when I was younger?
Cute puppies are also great for this, since they will often run over and initiate the friendship for you.

Added thought ... take a female goat. As a back up, just in case, you know.
Damn, was that out loud?

piercehawkeye45 · 11-08-2007, 02:15 PM

I feel it makes you feel any better I didn't have any good relationships in high school. Focus on other things, you will be ahead of the rest when you get out of high school.

But, don't get the impression that you will be getting laid three times a week in college either, it just doesn't work like that.

lookout123 · 11-08-2007, 02:17 PM

*pffft* 3 times a week? slacker.

Sundae · 11-08-2007, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by DanaC

Lot of adults simply don't have access to that kind of casual meeting scenario. This is particularly the case in big cities. Think about it: unless you are out with some friends, what do you look like if you go to a bar alone? People go out in pairs and groups, to be single and out and about alone is simply not societally acceptable in many places, and even where it is it is a dangerous thing to do, particularly if you're a woman. The reason speed dating, and net dating etc is such a big thing is because there are ever growing numbers of single adults who simply don't have the opportunity to meet other single adults unless it's in a work setting.

It is so true. And if you end up working in a same gender environment (and that's not your preference) you will dream about your school and college days in a rose-tinted haze, believe me.

I am coming round to the idea that we all have our best years ahead of us, but you more than most. You haven't found your peer group in high school? Hello college! In fact the only problem will be leaving with the same sense of uniqueness and put-upon genius you have now.

Cheer up, one way or another things will work out even if you do nothing but wait.

Tink · 11-08-2007, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Razzmatazz13

You are young (as I am), so maybe your fellow date-ees aren't mentally on the same path as you, and lemme tell you

THAT sucks.

If that's the case, the only thing you can do is wait it out. (I don't necessarily reccomend trying to date older folks, cause age doesn't always mean mentally mature)

Maybe the young folks ought to not dangle / flirt / tease the older folks and that problem will not happen. Maturity is a factor on both sides. Thus the term "prick tease".

binky · 11-08-2007, 02:49 PM

Ugh I HATED high school, and was one of the nerdy people, but the good thing to come out of all that is that I still have several good friends who were fellow nerds, plus I don't really give a rat's ass what anyone that I don't care about thinks of me.

Just go out and go for it Ibram, and try to remember, that whatever happens now, the person you get with now is HIGHLY unlikely to be the one you are with 10 years from now

Ibby · 11-08-2007, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Mockingbird

I'll add to that, too. In high school I was aware of crowds and cliques, but I didn't join in with it. I ignored it and painted pictures all day, that was what I wanted to do anyway. When people liked it, awesome, when they didn't, awesome. I liked what I did and I didn't care what crowd anyone was from.

As a result, everyone just called me the 'art kid' and I wasn't lumped in with anyone -- everyone talked to me 'cause I would talk to everyone else. Break out of the cliquey mold stuff, Ibram -- become your own clique. BE THE RULING BODY OF YOURSELF AND ET CETERA

TOO MUCH COFFEE

AUGH

Way ahead of you buddy, that's already where I'm at. I'm friends with rad people from whatever social group, already, and not part of any group. I've never really bought into the whole clique thing.

piercehawkeye45 · 11-08-2007, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Ibram

Way ahead of you buddy, that's already where I'm at. I'm friends with rad people from whatever social group, already, and not part of any group. I've never really bought into the whole clique thing.

Thats the way to do things, I did it as well in high school. I never had a certain group but I could get along with basically everyone in my school.

Clodfobble · 11-08-2007, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Ibram

I'm friends with rad people from whatever social group, already, and not part of any group. I've never really bought into the whole clique thing.

I dunno, I bet if you could find a "people who want to have sex with each other" clique, you'd be all over that.

Ibby · 11-08-2007, 08:03 PM

That's definitely true... touche, clodfobble

Michaela · 11-08-2007, 08:20 PM

Ain't that the truth. Well said.

monster · 11-08-2007, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Tink

Maybe the young folks ought to not dangle / flirt / tease the older folks and that problem will not happen. Maturity is a factor on both sides. Thus the term "prick tease".

Say what? Are you talking about Lookout and Drax? 'Cause I'm not entirely sure Lookout would enjoy being called a prick-tease (didn't know anyone still used that term), and I have no wish to speculate about whether Drax would enjoy it or not

11-08-2007, 10:24 AM	#48
Mockingbird Master of hand to mouth living Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Tulsa, Okla Posts: 189	I'll add to that, too. In high school I was aware of crowds and cliques, but I didn't join in with it. I ignored it and painted pictures all day, that was what I wanted to do anyway. When people liked it, awesome, when they didn't, awesome. I liked what I did and I didn't care what crowd anyone was from. As a result, everyone just called me the 'art kid' and I wasn't lumped in with anyone -- everyone talked to me 'cause I would talk to everyone else. Break out of the cliquey mold stuff, Ibram -- become your own clique. BE THE RULING BODY OF YOURSELF AND ET CETERA TOO MUCH COFFEE AUGH __________________ When you're low it's either wave that flag or stand there empty-handed. -- Achewood

11-08-2007, 10:24 AM	#49
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	I just wanted to say, Mockingbird's goat strategy is bloody brilliant. She almost has to talk with you, and it'll make her laugh which is always a huge bonus. Especially if she is an arty/coffee-shop girl, she'll be impressed by your surrealist grove. Why didn't I think of that when I was younger? Cute puppies are also great for this, since they will often run over and initiate the friendship for you. Added thought ... take a female goat. As a back up, just in case, you know. Damn, was that out loud? __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

11-08-2007, 02:17 PM	#51
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	pffft 3 times a week? slacker. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

11-08-2007, 02:49 PM	#54
binky all hollowed out Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ridgecrest, CA Posts: 982	Ugh I HATED high school, and was one of the nerdy people, but the good thing to come out of all that is that I still have several good friends who were fellow nerds, plus I don't really give a rat's ass what anyone that I don't care about thinks of me. Just go out and go for it Ibram, and try to remember, that whatever happens now, the person you get with now is HIGHLY unlikely to be the one you are with 10 years from now __________________ The meanest Mom EVER!!!!

11-08-2007, 08:03 PM	#58
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	That's definitely true... touche, clodfobble __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

11-08-2007, 10:23 AM	#47
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Ibby, my advice is build friendships for now. There's time enough for love (as heinlein would put it :P).

11-08-2007, 02:15 PM	#50
piercehawkeye45 Franklin Pierce Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Minnesota Posts: 3,695	I feel it makes you feel any better I didn't have any good relationships in high school. Focus on other things, you will be ahead of the rest when you get out of high school. But, don't get the impression that you will be getting laid three times a week in college either, it just doesn't work like that.

11-08-2007, 08:20 PM	#59
Michaela Lively Girl Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Montlake Terrace, WA Posts: 67	Ain't that the truth. Well said.

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