Mea Culpa

[Michaela]

Originally Posted by BigMcLargeHuge

Personally....I think BigV has abused at least one tenuous friendship he's developed here. As an objective observer, I opine that he is allowing blame to lie at the feet of someone who was responding to advances he initiated. He should be taking 100% of the responsibility for those deeds instead of encouraging or even permitting his wife to shift any of it outside.

I don't read him blaming the other "she". If you read his post in an unbiased way, he is taking all the blame himself. He says it...HE fucked up! And he's sorry. Damn.....hugs to B & T.

[BigMcLargeHuge]

Originally Posted by Michaela

I don't read him blaming the other "she". If you read his post in an inbiased way, he is taking all the blame himself. He says it...HE fucked up! And he's sorry. Damn.....hugs to B & T.

ORLY?

I know how hurt you are by me, and that you're also hurt by actions of the other people I interacted with. You are upset and angry with me and with them, and justifiably so.

[Michaela]

Originally Posted by BigMcLargeHuge

ORLY?

Yes REALLY!
"I know how hurt you are by me, (he's talking about his wife right?) and that you're also hurt by actions of the other people I (meaning BigV) interacted with. (meaning the girl)

You are upset and angry with me and with them, and justifiably so.
Tink stated that both parties sent pics of each other to each other as BigV obviously shared with her as they were trying to reconcile. So, that says to me, yes the "she" was actively involved. However, he is taking the blame. You all are harsh people. BigV was wrong, he admitted it. I don't see "she" standing up and apologizing for her part in this. You say he led her on....so you are in the know....well, "she" didn't have to play. And yes, she had a part whether you all want to believe it or not. Who sends private pics of themselves to another woman's husband in what obviously was of a sexual nature based on the post?

I'm just trying to stand up for those that I feel are being beat down in a way over the top way. and pardon me for living in Washington. Not my first choice, believe me.

[BigMcLargeHuge]

Originally Posted by Michaela

Yes REALLY!
"I know how hurt you are by me, (he's talking about his wife right?) and that you're also hurt by actions of the other people I (meaning BigV) interacted with. [b](meaning the girl)[/B
You are upset and angry with me and with them, and justifiably so.
Tink stated that both parties sent pics of each other to each other as BigV obviously shared with her as they were trying to reconcile. So, that says to me, yes the "she" was actively involved. However, he is taking the blame. You all are harsh people. BigV was wrong, he admitted it. I don't see "she" standing up and apologizing for her part in this.

'She' is undoubtedly mortified and unwilling to be focused upon in this way.

Originally Posted by Michaela

You say he led her on....so you are in the know....well, "she" didn't have to play. And yes, she had a part whether you all want to believe it or not.

I didn't say he led anyone on....I said i thought that he initiated it.

Originally Posted by Michaela

Who sends private pics of themselves to another woman's husband in what obviously was of a sexual nature based on the post?

someone who is, no doubt, responding to advances of a recently 'divorced' man. never seen this type of thing go down before?

Originally Posted by Michaela

I'm just trying to stand up for those that I feel are being beat down in a way over the top way. and pardon me for living in Washington. Not my first choice, believe me.

I have no interest in beating bigv or tink down. I like bigv and i dont know tink at all. I DO, however have a bad taste in my mouth. He wept and slobbered all over the cellar, and in at least 6 different individual ears that I know about. speaking 'privately' to enough people becomes public at some point. Monster said it pretty well near how I feel.

But....truth be told....I'd rather not know anymore about their marital strife....good or bad.

[jinx]

BigV needed support and leaned heavily on a lot of people, male and female, on the board, in chat, in PMs, in phone calls...
To single one supportive person out and give them a bunch of shit because she is female and cute is just fucked up.

Quite a few of us know who "she" is - and she knows she didn't do anything wrong and doesn't owe anyone an apology. If Tink thinks that she is owed one (other than V's) then BigV has not conveyed the situation accurately.