When our kids leave high school, and either get a job or go to uni, they're going to have to start supporting their own lifestyle choices. If they don't get themselves a job, they wont be going anywhere because we wont be funding it for them. Even if they're studying we expect them to have a part time job to fund their wardrobe, car expenses and entertainment. We've already discussed paying for their books etc, but we wont be paying for the uni. That will go on hecs (that's where the govt pays the tuition and then when the degree is finished, it comes out of their tax. A bit like a student loan I'm guessing) just as both Dazza and myself have done.
There are plenty of people here who fund everything and buy new cars for their kids etc, but I don't agree with this course and I definitely don't agree with my child telling me how I should support them. If my kids were to lie to me I don't think I'd feel inclined to say, "that's ok, you're an adult now. I'll just keep paying the bills for you while you talk crap to me." Nope, that's not how it would work.
If they think they know better than me on how the world works, it'll be time for them to step out of my house and into the big wide world.
Here's an example for you. If I found my kids were involved in some kind of hate group, I wouldn't support them in their 'choices'. I am opposed to these types of behaviour and will not support them. I would still love my child, but I would never support those types of choices.
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