I'm sorry to hear about all that MTP. Some people just don't quite get what it means to "walk in someone else's shoes". Meaning that they should have taken a step back and thought about what they were asking and forcing you to do from your POV. There's no such thing as a perfect parent, but I'm willing to guess that they do honestly have your best interest in mind. Obviously that doesn't always come through the way you would think, esp. given what sounds like fundamentalist Christian views (Pentecostal by chance?). But in their minds they are pushing you to do what they see as best for you according to their worldview, ya know? In this case, their views are asking too much of you, they didn't understand what you were going through, and it created a rift. I hope you can mend things with your parents, there's no replacement for that strong family bond. And I hope that they can see things from your perspective and try to respect your wishes, even if they disagree. Be careful not to throw the baby out with the bathwater in dealing with them though. Even though they may have some skewed expectations of you esp. regarding your faith, that doesn't automatically make their combined knowledge about life null and void (unless you ask RKZ).
We can only go by what we see posted on the board. We don't all necessarily know your personal background and life story, just whatever tidbits you happen to post. Which can lead to people seemingly coming off as jerks in response to your comments, when that's not necessarily the case or their intention.
12-06-2008, 09:14 PM
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