Dealing with Loss....

[Shawnee123]

Originally Posted by DanaC

Putting off til tomorrow is a fine way of dealing with emotional stress imo. You think about it, it upsets you...kick it into the long grass and deal with it when you feel stronger.

Again, wise words Dana.

The friend I mentioned earlier: I still have guilt that I had to push her out of my life. Was I not strong enough to deal with what she was going through? Honestly, at that time, no I was not. She was in an authority position and appointed herself my mentor, and led me down more than one bad path. At that time in my life (as I said, newly divorced) I was easily led: proclamations of "you are woman hear you roar" are all well and good if you have your feet firmly planted on the ground and are not handed delusions that you could take over the world in 5 easy steps (and boy, wouldn't that show everybody what a strong and thriving woman I was?) Grieving the loss of my marriage, and grieving the loss of her, while grieving the loss of having any clue who I was, was a blurry and confusing time.

But in the end, it made me so much stronger, as these things tend to do.