Tiki Bitches About...

[BigV]

I get it Tiki. I don't share your sensitivity to yammering, but I *completely* understand the desire to vent my frustrations to someone who (I imagine) is listening. I understand the release brought by articulating my negative feelings; until I can express them, I can't process them, shed myself of the burden they represent.

*Sometimes*, sometimes, the right person to tell them to is the source of my frustration. Sometimes. But when telling them wouldn't be true and helpful and kind, I refrain. I can hear now the parsings of what is true and helpful and kind--not the point here. Still, I have to get it out of my system. That I get.

The responses here ranged from sincere attempts at helpful advice to deliberate provocation, though no where did I see you ask for advice and I am sure you weren't trolling for a fight. Clearly you handled yourself just fine without my help. I don't have any advice. I don't want to stir the shit. I only wanted to say, as far as I can tell, you're doing fine, especially if this kind of expression has the *net* result of reducing your aggravations. If not, remember there's always the Ignore button.

Whoops, that was perilously close to advice. Well, it works on my posts too. I hope you feel better.

[xoxoxoBruce]

When men have a problem and they tell you about it, they want to know how to fix it.

When women have a problem and they tell you about it, they just want you to listen.

[lumberjim]

Originally Posted by quoted by bruce

When men have a problem and they tell you about it, they want to know how to fix it.

When women have a problem and they tell you about it, they just want you to listen.

Originally Posted by lumberjim

this thread= that scene in White Men Can't Jump where Rosie tells Woodie that she is thirsty, and then breaks his balls for getting her a glass of water.

[jinx]

I used to work with a notorious talker, in an office with about 60 other people. Everyone agreed there was no worse fate than being trapped alone in a room with this woman, and she knew it. She literally could not stop herself, every thought in her head needed to be shared, and would also remind her of the next thing she needed to tell you.... until you were literally in your car rolling up the window and inching away from her as she continued to blab away. Seriously.

My son is a talker. Most of the time it's fine - but sometimes *I* need (or just want) to use my brain and have it all to myself, so I tell him "I need a minute please". If he remembers what pokemon or football player he was telling about later, fine, if not it teaches him that not every thought needs to be shared. I don't answer my cell phone every time it rings either. Sometimes I'm not available.

Originally Posted by BigV

I get it Tiki. I don't share your sensitivity to yammering, but I *completely* understand the desire to vent my frustrations to someone who (I imagine) is listening. I understand the release brought by articulating my negative feelings; until I can express them, I can't process them, shed myself of the burden they represent.

*Sometimes*, sometimes, the right person to tell them to is the source of my frustration. Sometimes. But when telling them wouldn't be true and helpful and kind, I refrain. I can hear now the parsings of what is true and helpful and kind--not the point here. Still, I have to get it out of my system. That I get.

The responses here ranged from sincere attempts at helpful advice to deliberate provocation, though no where did I see you ask for advice and I am sure you weren't trolling for a fight. Clearly you handled yourself just fine without my help. I don't have any advice. I don't want to stir the shit. I only wanted to say, as far as I can tell, you're doing fine, especially if this kind of expression has the *net* result of reducing your aggravations. If not, remember there's always the Ignore button.

Whoops, that was perilously close to advice. Well, it works on my posts too. I hope you feel better.

Thanks, BigV.