Most & Least Favorite Ways to Cope

[daniwong]

Originally posted by Whit
      Ack... Just listen? But ... but ... if there's a problem ... it ... must be ... fixed...

      I hear ya though. I just know a particular person that really needs to go deal with some bad stuff in her past. I just don't know how to get her to start dealing. I don't mean in a "get over it" way. I mean it in a, "You've really been hurt, but you're sabotaging your happiness now, it's time to deal with it" way. Also, I can't be there to listen, actually, even if I could I don't want to be there to listen. But it's affecting others close to me. Kind of a quandry.
      It was a long shot but I had to try. Thanks anyway.

Wowsers- I never thought of a problem like that. Hmmm. If it was me - and its not but hell you are getting my opinion anyway - if you had just said that the "you've really been hurt, but you're sabotaging...etc" to me - and if I am not aware that this is what I am doing - then that could be the light bulb. Have you tried this? And again - if it was me being you- I would make sure that I came at it from a "I really care about you and this is worrying me because...." type of a standpoint.