Cheating even though you are happy.....

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by Pooka

As a married woman myself... I can tell you that if I was your wife... I'd already feel betrayed by you... there is a big difference between flirting, fantasy and contemplating bringing it into the reality... that is the line you don't cross if you plan to stay in a happy marriage.

Contemplating bringing it into the reality is part of the fantasy.

You've already crossed that line my friend... which says... no matter how happy you claim to be ... you aren't being honest with yourself about that... and you definitly aren't being honest with your wife.

Sure, tell her this chick is propositioning him and she'll either:
1- Freak out, stir up shit and probably get him fired, or
2- somehow twist it around so it's his fault, and throw it in his face during every argument, forever.

Maybe both.

[Shawnee123]

Aww, poor that. If he wants doesn't want to play with the big dogs, he should stay on the porch and enjoy it or quit his fucking salivating and barking.

Really, does he need to be every cliche in the book? Does his wife need be?

[jinx]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Sure, tell her this chick is propositioning him and she'll either:
1- Freak out, stir up shit and probably get him fired, or
2- somehow twist it around so it's his fault, and throw it in his face during every argument, forever.

Maybe both.

You've either;
1. met his wife
2. or you just have a really low opinion of women in general.

[Pooka]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Contemplating bringing it into the reality is part of the fantasy.

If he was still in fantasy mode we wouldn't be having this conversation... he wouldn't have felt the need to start the thread. IF it was just part of the fantasy he wouldn't be here reaching out for help or for approval... clearly he feels a certain amount of guilt already.

I personally would have no issue if my hubby said some coworker wanted to do him and he jacked off in the bathroom thinking about it (but thats just me)... what I would have an issue with is if he found himself faced with the moral delimma of acting upon it. Why not tell the wife and let her share in the fantasy... leave the co-worker out of it and not dignify the offer by giving it any attention. Keep it profesional and if approached again make it very clear you are happily married and are not availible.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by Pooka

If he was still in fantasy mode we wouldn't be having this conversation... he wouldn't have felt the need to start the thread. IF it was just part of the fantasy he wouldn't be here reaching out for help or for approval... clearly he feels a certain amount of guilt already.

What makes you so sure he reaching out for help or approval? How do you know he isn't bragging?
The chick propositioned him and he didn't take her up on it so he can't claim a conquest, but he can claim the proposition for partial credit.
But how does one do that? Hey, how about asking for advice.
It's been done before, of course it's usually verbal, and not on a board, but often enough that I recognize the possibility.

[Pooka]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

What makes you so sure he reaching out for help or approval? How do you know he isn't bragging?

The title of the thread would be one clue... "Cheating even though you are happily married"