Death/Funeral Etiquette Advice, please

[Clodfobble]

Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

Funny to be seen as the responsible one only in the event of death.

It's not that. She's just silently acknowledging that you are by far the superior party-planner in the family.

[Sundae]

Originally Posted by kerosene

I think the fact that she expects Sundae to do all of this when she is suppose to be grieving the loss of her mother seems insensitive.

Originally Posted by monster

Who else is going to do it? Having a list makes it easier, and there can be comfort in having something to do that doesn't require too much original thought.

Much as I moan about Mum, she is an excellent planner. And she wants things her own way, full stop. I think I've inherited both traits. Although I slightly mock her "proper" ways, it's only because I've fallen foul of them in the past. She will have the funeral she wants, and/or the funeral Dad wants. And she will be able to rely on me.

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

It's not that. She's just silently acknowledging that you are by far the superior party-planner in the family.

Funnily enough, I think that's true. Which is why she's gone to such length and in such detail. Because there's an incy wincy part of her which worries I'll organise a themed fairy pink funeral or somesuch, with an elephant and a steel band and a hot air balloon