Step-life

lumberjim · 06-30-2010, 11:04 PM

I have a step father in law. I call him Geeky.

kerosene · 07-01-2010, 12:59 AM

These perspectives are so helpful. Zippy, yes, the high road is usually best. Sometimes the bio-mom's games get in my head and I start second guessing everything. Thanks for the advice.

Monster, thank you for lending your perspective based on your experience. The third thing you mentioned about not favoring the bio child is something I have been conscious of since day one. I worry about seeming to be favoring him incessantly, and I end up being harder on him than on my step children. But, I still hear that I am favoring him. It is kind of a constant challenge, but I work on it. The second thing, about being interested in what they are into I have not been so good about. I get a little obsessive about step-daughter becoming too much like her mother...so I try not to give much attention to the stuff that I think is like her bio-mom. I do this subconsciously, because I don't want to be like that. I have more to add, but I will have to do it later. Thank you, again, Monster. I should have started this thread sooner.

xoxoxoBruce · 07-01-2010, 01:04 AM

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Originally Posted by kerosene

I worry about seeming to be favoring him incessantly, and I end up being harder on him than on my step children. But, I still hear that I am favoring him.

Maybe what you view as being harder on him, is viewed by her as more attention to him? Just guessing here.

06-30-2010, 11:04 PM	#1
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	I have a step father in law. I call him Geeky. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

07-01-2010, 12:59 AM	#2
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	These perspectives are so helpful. Zippy, yes, the high road is usually best. Sometimes the bio-mom's games get in my head and I start second guessing everything. Thanks for the advice. Monster, thank you for lending your perspective based on your experience. The third thing you mentioned about not favoring the bio child is something I have been conscious of since day one. I worry about seeming to be favoring him incessantly, and I end up being harder on him than on my step children. But, I still hear that I am favoring him. It is kind of a constant challenge, but I work on it. The second thing, about being interested in what they are into I have not been so good about. I get a little obsessive about step-daughter becoming too much like her mother...so I try not to give much attention to the stuff that I think is like her bio-mom. I do this subconsciously, because I don't want to be like that. I have more to add, but I will have to do it later. Thank you, again, Monster. I should have started this thread sooner.

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