Long distance relationship issues

[morethanpretty]

Originally Posted by Antimatter

Thanks, skysidhe, I think you just hit one of the nails right on the head.

My doubts are mostly about her ability to handle the thought of me seeing other women. I'm not really the jealous type myself, except when I feel somebody goes behind my back, which is how I feel about her little adventure while I was in Thailand. And even then it's not that bad, actually, although I would obviously have been happier had it not happened.

In the end I'm not sure if accepting her suggestion would be a compromise or a concession on my part. I guess that's part of what I'm trying to make up my mind about by soliciting your views on the situation.

My rule: either both get to be slutting it up without repercussion from the other party, or neither of you do.

[Antimatter]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

My rule: either both get to be slutting it up without repercussion from the other party, or neither of you do.

I totally agree with this. A few days of thinking has also convinced me that in this case there are too many things already muddying the waters, and we don't need one more right now. So an open relationship is not going to happen at this time.

She made some inquiries a couple of days ago that indicates that she's toying with the idea of moving here. That would clear up a lot of things, so I'm hoping the whole long distance thing will be over with sooner than I first thought possible.

Regarding the notion that long distance relationships never or rarely work, and that sooner or later they end, the same thing could be said for all my previous relationships. I won't even be surprised if this one doesn't last till death do us part, but I'm not done with it yet and I still think that the beautiful things we share outweigh the issues we have to deal with.