filthy's errr um...

[Clodfobble]

Sorry, but I'm going to be unpopular and play a little Devil's Advocate here.

Women are constantly given the stereotype of talking too much, and specifically talking about things that the men in their lives couldn't give a crap about. It should not be surprising when someone tries to avoid being "that woman," by seeking input from the guy on what he's actually interested in hearing about.

One of the cardinal rules of being a good conversationalist is to ask the other person about themselves.

Obviously there's a line in there somewhere, between wanting some normal amount of attention from the relationship and being high-maintenance and "all about me," and I have no idea of the specifics of your relationship and where your (ex)girlfriend may actually fall on that spectrum. I'm just saying, it's not inherently bad for her to have refrained from yammering about every detail of her life when you haven't asked.

Breaking up on Facebook first is definitely no good, though.

[Aliantha]

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Sorry, but I'm going to be unpopular and play a little Devil's Advocate here.

Women are constantly given the stereotype of talking too much, and specifically talking about things that the men in their lives couldn't give a crap about. It should not be surprising when someone tries to avoid being "that woman," by seeking input from the guy on what he's actually interested in hearing about.

One of the cardinal rules of being a good conversationalist is to ask the other person about themselves.

Obviously there's a line in there somewhere, between wanting some normal amount of attention from the relationship and being high-maintenance and "all about me," and I have no idea of the specifics of your relationship and where your (ex)girlfriend may actually fall on that spectrum. I'm just saying, it's not inherently bad for her to have refrained from yammering about every detail of her life when you haven't asked.

Breaking up on Facebook first is definitely no good, though.

This is what I was thinking when I read the OP. Maybe all she wants is for you to say, "so how was your day dear?"?

[plthijinx]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

This is what I was thinking when I read the OP. Maybe all she wants is for you to say, "so how was your day dear?"?

i ask that religiously. not for idle convo either. i ask because i care. growing pains in a relationship i think? i dunno. personally, my day sucked and i'm thankful it's bed time. g'night all.