Better to lie, or to break trust?

[Brigliadore]

Originally posted by ladysycamore
The only problem with that is that if something was contracted (disease) or conceived (getting pregnant) by that drunken union...well I'm thinking at SOME point the truth has to be revealed.

Thats a very good point, one I had not considered.

Originally posted by juju
I think it'd be best to tell, since good relationships have honesty as their foundation.

I agree with you Juju, trust and honesty should be at every relationships foundation. However if you have cheated on your other half you have already broken that trust. My reasoning for saying don't tell is that at that point, hiding it and lying about it is a moot point compared to the larger picture. The trust is broken, any added stuff is just like icing on the cake.

After talking to HP about this, he expressed that he would like me to tell him in the highly unlikely event something like this happens. I have to respect his wishes even if it would be a hard thing to admit having done. Having been on the other side of that table I know how much it hurts. However as I just pointed out, lying about it is like icing on the cake and since the larger damage has already been done, you might as well tell.