Why do you hate your mom?

[DanaC]

Ahh Dad. He was a wonderful man, but a mystery wrapped in an enigma. Quite eccentric and tending to be a bit of a hermit.

There's a lot of stuff we don't know about my Dad. Questions that were never answered. and some that were never asked. Our suspicion was that he had a separate life that we weren't a part of. Possibly that he was gay and in the closet. Not that we ever doubted he loved us. And he and Mum remained friends after they divorced (when i was 12).

But he was of that generation that didn't really consider coming out of any closets. It was still illegal when he was a young man. And his family were very conservative. Old anglo-Indian family from the British Raj.

He was also a nightworker for most of his adult life. So even when we were still together as a family, he lived to a different clock to us. There was always a bit of a separation. me, Mum and our martin, and then Dad.

Brilliant storyteller he was. He could be a little taciturn at times, but it was all surface. He was very gentle really.