need advice really really bad

[warch]

personally, i would NEVER go out for drinks with any guy, nevermind a guy who i was in love with. i am married.

This is not a philosophy I comprehend. I'm generally up for a drink and there are many guys whose company I quite enjoy. Drinks can mean friendship and conversation....can't they? Maybe I'm a ho and dont know? Nah, I'm too old fer that, thank god.

You need to do one thing. Talk to him until you are satisfied.