"She", not "he", guys

[henry quirk]

"you are absolutely entitled to your opinion"

But, Dana, that's (one of my) point(s): that he is 'he' is not an opinion, it 'is' fact.

He may 'feel' like a she, but he is not a 'she'.

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"I'm just having a hard time understanding why you had to start a whole thread to discuss someone else's gender."

Strictly speaking this thread is about appropriate use of pronouns.

Gender (Ibram's) is just the specific example of misuse.

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"...starting a thread about this was cruel. Unecessarily cruel."

Eye of the beholder.

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"Ibs is strident and a tad precious about it all at times, but one reason for that is the journey she has gone on to arrive at this point. She is also still young. With all the brazen zeal of the young. But the young, and particularly those who have struggled to such a degree with their sense of identity are also fragile."

All possibly true. All irrelevant.

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"This thread is cruel. Your views are your views, but this thread is unnecessry and cruel."

Again: eye of the beholder.

Your participation (as well as Ibram's) is solely your (and his) responsibility.

If you view this as an exercise in cruelty: then opt out or defend him with fact.

Again: appeals to courtesy are irrelevant.